I have two on the spectrum, and our psychologist told me with the younger children, "You know, if you ever need a diagnosis, we can do that" So I know what you mean. We homeschool now, and do most of the therapy ourselves, so a dx isn't important at this point for my younger two. Anyway, to answer your question, I *LOVE* how full of joy my daughter is. Her needs are so basic and simple, and honest, that for the most part she is really happy. She's ten, and just approaches life full of joy, laughing and happy. My twelve yo is more logical and I love love love how he learns things. He's definitely autodidactic and has a photographic memory, so he's always got something interesting to share. WIth a little bit of work on sharing information appropriately with others, he's really taken off in his conversation skills. And he rocks at Trivial Pursuit. My younger two (I have seven, but the others seem typical at this point), my six yo has such a keen eye for detail, that he's impressed the doctorates at the natural history museum, pointing out things about fossils and animals that most people don't see. My youngest, four yo and definitely an aspie, is rock steady and trustworthy. If he says he's going to do something, then he will move mountains to get it done. There is no lying for him, and he sees the best in everyone. All of them have brought such wonder into my life. Because of them I can see how blessed I am, and all the wonders that I've learned about people, others as well as those with disabilities. I've made some of the best friends I've ever known.