You already answered your question. Why not like BBWs? Although I am not particularly attracted to some BBWs, particularly very tall women, others I am attracted to, and will view them the same way that I view the smaller/shapely ladies. Also, as a fellow who can appreciate a big busted woman, I prefer big bust on a women who is in proportion, one who has the rest of the weight, e.g. thighs, hips, behind, to go with them. Dolly Parton and Pamela Anderson are wonderful people, and are both very pretty as well. But their bodies are caricatures and exaggerated, something like a 12-year old's fantasy.
So as an additional option, do not ignore all BBWs just because they're BBWs. You'd be surprised how much fun and how wonderful many of them are. Or are willing to be if given a chance. Besides, many of them do not have the attitude that they are doing the world a favor by being in ones' company.
P.S. Carl F: you hit the nail on the head. I have felt that way for over 40 years.