Well, there's a lot that can go wrong with internet friends, especially romantic ones. You can get people who will harm you in real life (rape, assault, theft, ect), but you can also get people who will manipulate your mind or lie about themselves! Here's some rules to go by:
1) NEVER give out your personal information. I know that it's tempting to send your new girl your home address & personal info, but don't. You don't know who she really is... or if she's really even a she. Later on when you can be sure that she's really who she claims to be, then slowly give out personal data. Make sure to never give out anything that can be used to steal your identity.
2) Remember that her personality is only what you know on the internet. She may sound like an angel, but what is she like in person? People will lie or stretch the truth to seem better than they are in real life. That 23 year old girl with the swimmer's body can easily be an overweight 14 year old or a 45 year old man. Her personality could be an act she puts on to ensure that you'll like her.
3) When you meet face to face, do it in a public place. No, a park isn't public enough. You want to meet where there's no chance that you could be dragged off & molested. You also want to make sure that there's enough people around so if you know you'll be seen & heard if you are in trouble. Don't go anywhere alone with the person on the first date. Don't get in their car. It's amazing how many people are hurt b/c they assume that it'll never happen to them.
4) You've met up & now you are talking in real life. Take their personality with a grain of salt. Everyone will portray themselves as better at first, so there's a good chance that she may not be as nice as she initially appears. While this isn't necessarily a bad thing, some people will act nice in order to cover a harmful & manipulative personality.
5) Never give out money. NEVER. If they make it a requirement that you "help" her with finances, then dump them. If they keep pestering you for stuff, then dump them. There's a lot of people who make multiple online friends so they can scam them.
6) If they can't give you a picture, be careful. It's way too common for people to lie about themselves online, so sometimes your girl is actually a guy. If they can't eventually send you a picture, then be careful- your girl could be a con.
The odds are that your girl is who she claims to be, and isn't likely to be a scammer, rapist, or anyone bad. Most people aren't bad people, but there's still that 10% to be careful for. As long as you use common sense & reasonable judgement, you should be ok.
· 1 decade ago