One of my (non-Narrative) interventions was to suggest that she pretend to be forgiving,using Socrates' dictum, "Seem the man you wish to be." We agreed on three items of 'homework' designed to give her opportunities for this.
At the end of the session, I felt that I had done little to help her. I left with a sense of failure.She seemed too full of bitterness and hate.
One week later, things were very different. She had read Seven Choices from cover to cover,and completed all the rest of what she had undertaken. She had decided to try and get permission to visit her brother's murderer in jail, and wrote a bridge-building letter to her parents. However, she started the session with the belief that all this would be useless: things would never change in her life.
As I kept asking questions and reflecting back her answers, I suddenly saw her in a new light. I shared this with her, and with considerable excitement the two of us composed a Statement:
I am a person who hangs on to things.
I remember both the good and the bad.
This makes me a wonderful friend and a terrible enemy.
I’m a good person to have around when you’re in trouble...
But you’d better not hurt someone I love!
I am a protector.
I am now working on not being an Avenging Angel.
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer