I know where you're coming from. Many guys have the same issue.
Have you ever considered that maybe you are going after the wrong girls? Maybe you should think about that. Opposites can or cannot attract, there is no definite rule for a match. So, switch up your options.
This other girl(Who has had 5 boyfriends...) you're mentioning seems to go out with people often. But is that a good thing? She may go out with them, but does she keep the relationships? I highly doubt she does. You shouldn't envy something that isn't worth it. You sound like a perfectly fine person so don't worry about appearance. Do other girls know you want a girlfriend badly? It's a good idea not to look desperate. Girls are turned-off by desperation. So don't show it. These girls probably wont say yes because they don't consider you boyfriend material quite yet. And it could possibly be 'cause of appearance or personality, but that may not be the factor either. You just haven't proven yourself in the world of relationships yet. You just need to show these girls why you are worth their time. Focus on your approach towards girls, not who you are. Be confident of everything, but never cocky. Complimenting girls, helping girls, anything that's proven to benefit you, you should go with. Be sure to show different sides of you. Emotional, thoughtful, fun, etc. You have to be able to know your weaknesses and strengths towards girls. Every guy has their ups and downs. Before you ask the girl out, maybe do some background research. Is she honestly worth the ask? Make sure you know what you're getting into. If you research more of her background, you'll know what she's looking for. Patience is the key to any relationship... so be as patient as you can. Fourteen is still a pretty young age to find love, and normally "true love" isn't going to show itself until you are much older and mature. There is always, someone meant for someone. It's better to wait for someone that wont hurt you, than to get in any immediate relationship that might hurt you. But for right now just do as I say, you'll do fine.
If you do get a girlfriend, and you want to inform your parents that you have one, explain to them the optimistic things about her. Show them that you can be responsible. If your parents don't take it lightly, I highly suggest you prove them wrong. Parents can be tough on you during things like this. So make a softer, concerning, serious approach.
I wish all the best for you.
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· 1 decade ago