How do we make our own lives difficult ?

How are our actions responsible for the strss/difficulties in our lives ? Your comments on this...

how to avoid the same..

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13 Answers

    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Best Answer

    it is mainly because we focus on negative thoughts rather than positive ones...hoe to avoid that ?

    please read this.


    by Rhonda Byrne "How do I stop my negative thoughts?" - is a question that I have

    been asked many times. If you have ever asked this question then

    you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer, because

    it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good

    thoughts! When you try to stop negative thoughts, you are focusing on what

    you don't want - negative thoughts - and you will attract an

    abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on

    them. The "stop" part is irrelevant - the negative thoughts are

    your focus. It doesn't matter if you are trying to stop negative

    thoughts or control them or push them away, the result is the same.

    Your focus is on negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction

    you are inviting more of them to you. The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative

    thoughts, just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good

    thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to

    appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your

    car, your home, your family, your job, your friends, your

    surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of

    the day. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. Every

    time you say "Thank you" it is a good thought! As you plant more

    and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out.

    Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on

    you attract. So don't give any attention to negative thoughts. Don't worry about

    them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them

    be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now. The more good thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life

    will be utterly transformed into all good. If you spend only one

    day speaking of good things and saying "Thank you" at every single

    opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately

    thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think

    good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the

    Universe will transform those seeds into a garden of paradise. How

    will the garden of paradise appear? As your life!



  • 1 decade ago

    Dear Madhavi,

    What do you mean by making life difficulty. When you know for sure you are making life difficult, you should actually stop doing so. Don’t you think answer lies within the question.

    Your fate is the result of your deeds / actions (Karma) of the current birth & previous births. It is only our actions which is responsible for the strss/difficulties in our lives.

    Desire should limit to only your karma / that is your deeds and expect the least from life. Expectations / desires leads to all troubles in life.

    It is actually your perception and how you have created your world based on your desire. Desire leads to you working towards success (so called success in your books).

    For example, in your case. You want to be something. The desire of wanting to be something is making life difficult for you.

    We always think that everything is in our hand and we can do it. But what we don’t understand is that he should wish even after all your efforts. That is where faith comes in to picture.

    Faith means complete faith (in arabic complete faith is called Islam). You cannot have ½ faith or some fraction of faith. When you have complete faith you will not perceive difficult situations as difficulty, instead you will treat them as challenges.

    Live is very difficult if you look at it like that. If you are start look at life in a simple way, life is very simple to lead.

    With warm regards


  • small
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I believe that it is inactive indecision and worry over the uncertain future that creates the maximum difficulty in our life. Wrong decisions can create problems which can be faced if we make up our mind, but procrastination leaves us hanging uncomfortably without any clue as to how to handle the situation. Similarly, a lack of concern over future can at worst lead to wrong decisions, but the worry leads to procrastination. I have always realized that physical difficulties are of a much lower comparative level opposite mental difficulties, the same way as mental health problems present a much higher level of difficulties to tackle than the physical health issues.

  • Naguru
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    There are two types of people in the world.

    In the first type. People are well organized, systematic, punctual, disciplined, orderly, regular, positive in mind, morally strong, intellectually strong, spiritually strong. They have right vision. They have direction. They have speed. They have right kind channelizing their resources. They do not know what is lethargy (laziness). They are active and dynamic in their positive outlook. They are honest and sincere. They are interested in serving the humanity. Besides they may have other good qualities and virtues which I could not quote here as I am not able to recollect abruptly. Such people may not find any difficulty to face their normal life.

    On the contrary there are the second type of people. They are diametrically opposite. They are not organized, they are not systematic, not punctual, not disciplined, not orderly, not regular, not positive in outlook, weak morals, intellectually poor, spiritually weak, No proper vision. No direction. No speed. etc. etc. The second type of people make their own lives difficult.

    The accumulated result of all our virtues and vices will bear the fruit.

    Source(s): own
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  • 1 decade ago

    Dear Madhavi,

    You can avoid the stress and difficulties in your life by stop asking others to answer your questions. How can anyone answer or provide solutions to your problems when no one can go through the same the way you are going through them as well as no one can match the intensity and after affects of the problems the way they will affect you.

    Its your life, your decisions and your responsibilities. Be brave to take decisions as well as to be responsible for their consequencies.

    Step down if you feel climbing up can make you lonely. Step back if you feel moving forward can make you fragile and easy target. Step in if you feel steping out can never let you face circumstances and come over it.

    Trust yourself, love yourself and be yourself.

    Regards to the soul which has behomed in your self.




    Source(s): Your questioning ability.
  • Inay
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    we make our own lives difficult when

    1. we lack understanding

    2. cannot accept things

    3. and no contentment

    in which all has the same roots.....don't love yourself alone....

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There are a few folksy sayings in the American vernacular, though I wish we abided by them more: "Stop trying to keep up with the Jones's," "Don't try to ice skate up hill," "You don't spit into the wind," "You don't 'crap' where you eat." I like the little old wisdom nuggets.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    By ignoring ourselves and not understanding the mistake we are committing and by repeating the mistakes again and again.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    One must not get demoralized.Difficulties will come up but one must be firm to get over up and down problems.It is part of life.Problems will come but one should cross over?

  • D_guy
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago think more and more of unwanted things..which leads to the creation of more and more complications in our present life..ANd also the main is:Very often Changing of desires..I believe stick to one ambition..

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