Wedding in 3 wks... Families dont get along?

My fiance and i are getting married on Sept 27th... Our families dont get along - things have happened that just cannot be forgiven - - - - - - - - My mom got really mad at my fiance (boyfriend back then) because she over heard him telling me that i shouldnt listen to her, i was 18; an adult, and had to make... show more My fiance and i are getting married on Sept 27th...

Our families dont get along - things have happened that just cannot be forgiven - - - - - - - -

My mom got really mad at my fiance (boyfriend back then) because she over heard him telling me that i shouldnt listen to her, i was 18; an adult, and had to make my own decisions - yada yada yada - -

Well, she hit him.

His aunt was drunk a few nights later started thinking about what happened between him and my mom...

She actually called the Department of Childrens Services on me - - - - Sent them to my house several times telling them lies that would result in my son (2 at the time) to be taken away from me.

Thank God, they never took him.

Things have gotten better, but she just wont admit that she called - but when it happened the social worker told me it was her.

She has been very polite and tolerable since she found out about the engagement - but im afraid there may be some drama because the reception is at her house....

I dont know if his family and my family will be able to handle being around eachother for so long.

Im hoping they can just tolerate eachother for the ceremony and reception... after that i really dont care about what they do.

This is my wedding day and i dont want it to be a disaster.

Any suggestions on how to keep the peace?

Thanks.
Update: It was my fiance's aunt's idea to have the reception at her house, thats her wedding present to us - to have the reception there and shes a caterer so shes also providing all of the food and the cake... she asked him - and without thinking he accepted... i dont need a bunch of grief; just a few... show more It was my fiance's aunt's idea to have the reception at her house, thats her wedding present to us - to have the reception there and shes a caterer so shes also providing all of the food and the cake... she asked him - and without thinking he accepted...

i dont need a bunch of grief; just a few suggestions that will make the process easier.
Update 2: We cant elope as the wedding is in 3wks...

everything including the reverend, and destination spto etc have already been paid for and reserved...
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