Well she's his mummy and she has no practical idea how to make a marriage work. What are you supposed to do, stay home and be a wife 24/7? It doesn't work that way. If you and your husband are happy with the arrangements then what business is it of hers?Ok, you're young and you chose to have children, does that mean you shouldn't be entitled to a life as well. It seems like she thinks he can be a dad and still have his social life, surely the same should work for you. Why isn't she doing her bit and helping out with the childcare? Does she want your relationship to fail? Is she not supportive? My daughter(18 and against my best judgment) just had a baby. I babysit at least once a week so her and her boyfriend can have some kind of life. Sometimes your family doesn't work out how you planned it but she should still be in there trying to make things better for you all, not making it harder for you. Your husband needs to grow some balls and have a word with her, he owes you this!