lovelyladee asked in PetsCats · 1 decade ago

Please help me decide if I should put my cat to sleep.?

My cat is pretty old. I've had her for 23 years now but she got really sick, really fast. Here's a list of her problems:

*Severe Kidney Disease

*Hyperthyroidism which causes her to eat/drink constantly but still lose weight. She only weighs 4.5 pounds now. I can feel her bones.

*There's something pushing her eye out of socket. The vet believes this to be a tumor

*Urinary tract infection

*Abcess tooth/rotten teeth

*She tries not to put too much weight on her back right leg but she can still walk and jump

*When she breathes, she sounds like she's snoring

*She is losing her hearing

I love my cat so much and I just cry at the thought of not having her with me anymore but I know I have to do what's best for her. The vet says that she's too old for any kind of treatment and that I should just try to keep her happy and comfortable but they didn't tell me to put her down. What should I do?


If she is in pain, I will put her down. I don't want her to suffer because I don't want to let her go. That would be selfish of me and this is about her, not me.

As for quality of life, she sleeps a lot and just wants to eat when she's not sleeping. She doesn't play much anymore. She just hangs out and climbs in our laps when she's ready for snuggles.

I know that no one can tell me what to do. I was hoping to hear what you would do if you were in my position. Thank you so much for your answers.

18 Answers

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    if i was you, i honesly would put him down. i know how you feel cause i had to make the decision. at first i was thinking, no way i cant live without him but than i realized all i was thinking about was my feelings, instead of how he felt. i love him so much that i didnt care hw i would feel or how sad i was, i didnt want to watch him suffer anymore. i knew that he would rahter be died than suffer. so puttign your cat down will really show how mych you love him. i know its the hardest thing in the world, but you dont want to see him suffer. and your right it is only up to you but thats what i woud do. that is what i did. you have to realize that your cat will be in a better place where he isnt suffereing anymore. and someday you wil be together agian. so just say goodbye to him for now. im sorry that you have to go through this its a tough decision cause you dont want to let him go but at the same time you dont want him to suffer. but just do whats best for him. alot of people feel guilty aftter but htey shouldnt casue putting their cat down shows how much they love them. and its good that you realize its about her and not you. i can tell you really love her. but it wont be goodbye forever, jsut for now. i hope you get through it when the times comes. and just rememebr how lucky your cat was to have a owner that loves him.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your vet is probably thinking about your feelings. Which is right, in a way.But here's the part that will be hard to hear:

    Your cat has had a long life, and the hard decisions are often the ones that need to be done the most. Consider it one final kindness. There's no treatment that will make a difference for your cat's terminal conditions, and they're only going to get worse and cause the animal more suffering. It's suffering now, and it will hurt you just as much to watch the process.

    I've had to euthanize several cats, and it doesn't get easier. The process is simple: the vet will give an injection that will cause unconsciousness and cardiac arrest in under a minute, and the only pain the cat will feel is the needle pinch. You can hold the cat while the injection is done, or not as you choose. It may help to bring a friend for support.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Lovely: I think you've answered your own question. Take a really good look at all the health issues she has already. She is in immense pain. Keeping her here instead of giving her peace is truly cruel to her. Atleast animals have this option.

    That said, I have had to do the same for animals not even close to being in this bad of shape. It is truly something that never leaves you, and no matter what the reason, you will always question your decision. I would like to suggest that you have a very caring vet that will allow you to do it your way. I was with each one, held them close, and said goodbye. As I'm writing this, the tears are coming.

    Keep in mind that she's been with you longer than most cats will ever live, so she's had a full life and has been loved. It's now your RESPONSIBILITY to let her go.

    My thoughts are with you. Being in that kind of pain every day decreases their quality of life so much. Her last days should be full of a kind face and loving ways instead of intense, constant pain.

    Source(s): EX Breeder - Siamese Chocolate Point. I bred extremely large, aggressive, assertive and domineering cats for those who really wanted a true siamese. Mine were hand raised and fully litter and behavior trained, since if not, would be very difficult to handle when older. They were also neutered\spayed only if they were going to a home and not another breeder. Also had all shots, etc. They had to be totally healthy and atleast 4 months old before they were sold. Homes and background check were done on each potential buyer, and if not educated on the breed, the sale was cancelled. I also normally had a waiting list, so that each litter already had homes before born. Only one kitten out of the numerous litters was ever returned. My mother had him euthanized due to old age and liver issues at the age of 19. I lost his mother a year before I lost him. I had her about six years after I stopped breeding her, as you only want to do 4-5 litters per a female, and only 1 litter per year as more is just not ethical treatment. They both lived full and happy lives. I stopped due to overpopulation since there are many more who go without a home. I'd rather save a life than make money while millions of cats are put to death due to irresponsible or uneducated pet owners.
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    The main question is does she have quality of life? If she is miserable and there is nothing a vet can do to help then you should make the hard decision and put her to sleep. You dont want her to be in pain day after day. Just something to think about. Plus when most people finally decide to euthanize they feel bad that they waited so long. It should be about her life. Now how you will feel without her. She has had a long life so you have obviously taken great care of her. Hope this helps. Hope you make the best decision for her.

    Good luck and God bless

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  • RoVale
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I can't tell you what to do since I haven't seen the cat but if the vet felt she didn't need to be put down right there and then, then I would do my best to keep her comfortable for the rest of her days. Still, I have to say that 23 years is a long life and I'm sure it's been a happy one.

  • 1 decade ago

    Only you can tell if she is actually in pain or not. You have been with her for 23 years. That is a long life for a cat. She had to be well cared for to live that long. But more than that, she had to be loved.

    I believe that as pet owners, the last, greatest gift we can give our pets, is a release from pain. To let go, even if we think we can't. To allow them to pass in dignity.

    I am truly sorry for you.

    Edit: JME2207 If you ARE a vet tech, you should KNOW that telling a client or owner to euthanize is out of your scope AS a technician. Vets and techs are bound NOT to answer the 'What would you do?' question. We cannot sway the owner either way.

    Lovelylady, I'm sorry to use your question as a forum for education.

    Source(s): Former CVT
  • 1 decade ago

    You should ask your vet to discuss this with you. They have seen many pets, and they will know better than anyone what symptoms are serious to the quality of life, and which ones are not as serious

    For me, I would be very concerned that my cat was suffering, so I would ask the vet, especially about the breathing difficulties, abcessed tooth, and urinary tract infection.

  • 1 decade ago

    I had to make this same decision after twenty years with my "Perkins." I loved him like he was my own child. I made that decision for him quickly though when I realized that he was in pain more often then he felt good. I had him cremated and I still have his ashes. I miss him but I have lots of good memories that he was a part of. I just recently got a new kitten after a few years of Perkins being gone, I hope my new kitten will be a part of my family as long as Perky.

  • Taylor
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You can't depend on people online to make such a hard decision for you, unfortunately.

    My only opinion is this: Your cat sounds like she's in a lot of pain. As much as I hate to say it (Trust me, I looked down at my own kitty when I was typing this) I think you should think about letting her go to a better place. I'd never want Leo to have to go through all of that-- THAT would hurt me more.

  • 1 decade ago

    a vet will never tell you to put her to sleep. it is your choice.

    when he said " she's too old for any kind of treatment and that I should just try to keep her happy and comfortable ", he said, "put her to

    sleep. " you just didnt hear it. you were listening for" no problem, i can cure this".

    go do something with her one last time. steak dinner in the blender so she can drink it, walk in the park, what ever. say goodbye.

    you are going to feel a lot worse if you come home some day and find her dying a slow painful death, all alone.

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