Has anyone else been given a slight complex about gaining weight in pregnancy?

Hello. I'm 14 almost 15 weeks pregnant. I was told by my mother, future mother-in-law, aunt, the midwife, it's in a handout the midwife gave me, and the ultrasound technician that I should not "eat for two" and I should just eat what I ate before (I've always had a healthy diet, mm vegetables) just SLIGHTLY more,... show more Hello. I'm 14 almost 15 weeks pregnant. I was told by my mother, future mother-in-law, aunt, the midwife, it's in a handout the midwife gave me, and the ultrasound technician that I should not "eat for two" and I should just eat what I ate before (I've always had a healthy diet, mm vegetables) just SLIGHTLY more, like a cookie more. I was told, do not gain too much weight in your first trimester or in your second or you will gain too much weight and be unhealthy!

This has started to give me a complex. Just because of the sheer number of people that have told me this, and what they've said exactly.

My mother told me if I gain too much weight I will be forever fat. She said to ignore anyone who says I should gain much more than baby weight, and not to increase my diet at all. She also said she didn't show at all until her 6th month, and my future mo-in-law alluded to the same thing. So, the fact that my belly is already poking out a bit before I've hit 4 months must be the problem. ?? I thought everyone was different and my showing a bit already isn't that unusual.

And, this stupid handout said not to drink 2% milk and only drink skim and not much of it (I've drank 2% milk every day since I was a kid) or more than a glass of juice a day (I've drank a half gallon of OJ every couple days since I was 15). Then, OTHER people keep saying things to me about not gaining weight.

I am confused. I've always been thin, and I've only gained about 6 pounds so far. That's actually alittle less than normal, considering I had no morning sickness.

People are insighting me to slight paranoia about this. Making me wonder if I look fat or something, and wondering is that why they keep telling me not to gain weight?

I keep staring at myself in the mirror and asking myself what the heck they are seeing that makes them say something to me about my weight.

Now I look at food and wonder if I should eat it or not, have to talk myself out of down-talk, and feel uncomfortable about eating too much in front of certain people (my mother, future mo-in-law) or they'll say something (my mother HAS) to me. This is just STUPID.

Shouldn't folks be encouraging me to eat? I've always ate healthy, but I do forget to eat sometimes. I can't do that now, I get really dizzy and feel ill when I forget to eat. So shouldn't someone be reminding me when I'm around them, "you should eat!", not patronizing me and giving me unasked for advice about not "getting fat".

I am mad about this now. At first I was worried, but now I'm just getting angry.

What should I say to folks, "bite me!! I eat when I'm hungry!!"? Or should I just smile and thank them for the advice?

And why on earth do they keep telling me this? I KNOW I shouldn't do something crazy like double my caloric intake.

Well, I mean, I don't expect any of you to know what is going through their minds -- but maybe someone will have a better idea than me about why they'd all be mentioning this to me, and why the handout said not to drink much juice or milk.

I also know this all sounds bad, too. Like, I shouldn't worry about what others think and should just be healthy and ignore them. I am, but, I'm finding it hard when my mother scrutinizes me for eating a small bowl of sherbert and my future mo-in-law gives me dirty looks for eating a brownie after dinner. Arrr.
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