My spouse informed me i need to work?

I have stayed home for the past four years because he did not want our four year old to go to daycare. And i had lupus. He is under some strain because he lost his job he got another job but his ex wife is taking him back to court for child support. Every time i tried to work he said no. Now he is saying i have... show more I have stayed home for the past four years because he did not want our four year old to go to daycare. And i had lupus. He is under some strain because he lost his job he got another job but his ex wife is taking him back to court for child support. Every time i tried to work he said no. Now he is saying i have been asking you to work for along time. And telling me if i do not get the job that makes the most money he will be mad. i went to school and i have a degree but i do not like that field. he isnt threatening to leave but he is saying if i love him i will make the most money. i feel like i am being used.
He also made fun of me because i have been depressed because im still grieveing the loss of a stillborn. it has been a year but he says its been a year i dont want to hear nothing else about it. you will get the job that makes the most money.
how should i feel?
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