Yes, it was child abuse. And that is not from my mind, it is legal fact. Any one of those instances when he bashed your head could have caused brain damage, if it had he would be in prison right now. You are lucky you got out in one piece physically. And you seem to have a managed to keep your spirit alive as well. You are a strong person inspite of these horrible people. You are a survivor. Never expect an apology, people like this don't admit they are wrong. Always remember that this was their problem and their fault, not yours. Forge ahead in life and be a good person to further spite them. And when you have children of your own, keep one thing in the front of your mind, everything they did was wrong so don't repeat their actions. I read every book on child rearing I could get my hands on so that I would never never treat my children like I was treated. I know some awesome people who have gone through similiar horrid childhoods, you are in good company. And you know what, I saw no anger here, no bitterness, just hurt. You are an awesome person too!