It seems you might be talking about negative emotions.
Then again you might actually be speaking about ``feelings you have for someone``. It is hard to tell.
If you are upset about something someone else has done or not done, then the only person who needs to know about it is you because no one else is responsible for your emotions and their consequences.
We so often figure that we are responsible for someone else`s lives and we are not, and vice versa. Others might like to think you are, but they are , imo, dead wrong.
C.P. Cavafy wrote an interesting poem after he had gotten old in which he advises to live with courage and take risks. Because of the culture he lived in, he refrained from expressing his feelings regarding his sexual inclinations when he was young. This did cause him great pain later. Yet this was all imagination, this ``what if ?``. I mean had he expressed those feelings things still could have been even worse as far as hurting people including maybe himself. So in a way he confirms my view. What I see is that he blames himself and a situation he could not apparently do anything about for his suffering. That is likely why I find nothing else in all his works that is worth, imo, two cents, even though that one poem is my favorite all time one. Here it is:
Edmund Keeley & Philip Sherrard
As you set out for Ithaka
hope your road is a long one,
full of adventure, full of discovery.
angry Poseidon-don't be afraid of them:
you'll never find things like that on your way
as long as you keep your thoughts raised high,
as long as a rare excitement
stirs your spirit and your body.
wild Poseidon-you won't encounter them
unless you bring them along inside your soul,
unless your soul sets them up in front of you.
Hope your road is a long one.
May there be many summer mornings when,
with what pleasure, what joy,
you enter harbors you're seeing for the first time;
may you stop at Phoenician trading stations
to buy fine things,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
sensual perfume of every kind-
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
and may you visit many Egyptian cities
to learn and go on learning from their scholars.
Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Arriving there is what you're destined for.
But don't hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you're old by the time you reach the island,
wealthy with all you've gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.
Ithaka gave you the marvelous journey.
Without her you wouldn't have set out.
She has nothing left to give you now.
And if you find her poor, Ithaka won't have fooled you.
Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,
you'll have understood by then what these Ithakas mean.
First version probably writtem January 1894.
Final version written October 1910, and published November 1911.
This is where the argument for living in the present is strongest. You are not the person you were in the past, so that guilt stuff you can just deposit it in the garbage bin.
Remember Popeye? ``I am what I am and ….!``
Refocus on what helps bring joy into your heart and everything will work out perfectly.