I have read articles on this issue and I have talked to black men who date white women.
Some black men date white women because they feel like black women are too demanding and that nothing they do seems to be good enough for these black women out here.
Some black men date white women for control issues.There are certain things that black women will not take off a man.Some black men have bragged how easy it is to control white women and they brag about having their white woman under control.I even witnessed a black man beating on his white girlfriend.He punched her all up in the face like she was a beanbag and bragged about how he has her in check.Most black women will fight back and not take that s*** off him.
Some black men argue that black women are too needy,some are overweight,some are too demanding,etc. etc.
Then there are black women who date white men and other non black males for the same reasons.
So many of these black women are opening up to dating other races.
Me being one of them.
I am going for non black men for the same reasons black men go for non black women.
Half of these black men out here around my age just are undatable.Half of the young black men out here and even sadly some middle aged black men out here are jobless and some aren't even trying to get a job.They want to stand on the corner all day and shoot dice,disrespect women,and listen to loud music.Half of the black men are in jail or dying from HIV/AIDS, so that leaves us black women short. Half of the black men out here aren't trying to get a college education.They think college is for suckers so they end up with dead end low paying jobs or they are just jobless.They plan on living with their mama until she dies.They're mama's boys.The worst kind.
So black men are going for the white women because more so often she is more educated, not too demanding,not putting down every little thing, etc.
And some educated black women like me choose to go after white men because look at the trash we black women are stuck with.All the successful black men go for the white,Asian,and Latina women and that leaves us with the trashy black men who stand on the corners, shoot dice,disrespect women,do drugs,sell drugs,drink themselves stupid,work dead end jobs,lazy Mfs who don't want nothing out of life,and mama's boys.(men determined to live with their mama until she dies.) Remember that movie Don't Be A Menace While Drinking Your Juice in The Hood? Old School was 40 years old still living with his mama and thats sadly what some of these black men do.They wouldn't know an apartment if it bit them on the ****.
So black women go for white men because look at the loser black men thats left as a result of successful black men going to white women.
And black men do the same because some of the black women are losers too.I mean look at some of the black women out here too.They have 1 to 5 kids each by a different man,they are determined to collect welfare for the rest of their lives, some are working dead end jobs,some aren't trying to go to college,some are still living with their mamas and they are in their fricking 30s and 40s,etc.
Most black men that date whites I talk to said the same thing.Some of these black women don't want nothing and they glamorize ghetto mentality so they go for the white women.
And you are right about us black women losing out because the successful black males leave and date white women and we are left with these good for nothing sorry black men who don't want nothing out of life.
So we black women are going to have to date outside our race because I know I don't want a loser who still lives at home with his mama, who is a total mama's boy, working a dead end job,shooting dice on the corner all day,drinking himself stupid,f**king every woman in sight,selling drugs,doing drugs,going off to jail,riding public transportation,and not having any money to do something besides hang on the block all day. Look at the losers we black women have to deal with.
I'm all for biracial dating.I've had it up to here with black men and their mess.Like Shug said on the movie The Color Purple.
"I don't need no weak little boy who can't say no to his daddy!I need a man! A man!"
I need a man.Not some weak little mamas boy who just sits on his **** all day playing video games,hanging with the boys,doing drugs,listening to loud music,disrespecting women,shooting dice,working a dead end job or not even having a job,not trying to get a college education,riding public transportation,have bad credit,wearing saggy pants showing his boxers and butt to everyone,and acting like a little boy.
We black women are going to have to be open to dating other races.
Now some of these black chicks out here are ghetto and are desperate and they date those losers and have babies for them but look what it gets them.