I am a Christian woman and a submissive wife. The thing about submission is that you cannot be forced to do it. It is a decision that the woman herself has to make. She does it out of love for her husband. Submission is not at all the equivalent of slavery, in fact it is the opposite. It is a loving willingness to see that your husband is getting what makes him happy. If your husband is happy with how you treat him(which should be like a king), then he will gladly come home to you after work instead of heading off to some bar to escape the constant nagging. NEVER expect your husband to do chores at home. If he does them without being told to, it is him saying that he loves you and wants to give you a break. My husband takes out the trash and does somethings that I just can't do, but I don't expect him to, he expects him to do it! Also submission isn't handing over all you opinions either, it is picking your fights wisely and giving your opinion gracefully. If your husband is doing something that is wrong, you can call him out on it. You aren't some robot woman brainwashed into doing everything your husband says, you are still his wife who's opinion he loves and respects. You can give them, but ultimately it should be his decision. That is where submission takes it's place. If your husband is a good man, he will see the sincerity in your opinion and accept it. By being submissive, you are showing your husband that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make him relaxed, peaceful and happy at home. In return you earn his respect and consideration. It is a win win situation.
"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife
as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ,
so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church
and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
and to present her to himself as a radiant church,
without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish,
but holy and blameless.
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
After all, no one ever hated his own body,
but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--
for we are members of his body.
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh."
This is a profound mystery--
but I am talking about Christ and the church.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."