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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

Being a widow for 3 years now is it an obligation to attend my deceased husband's family gatherings?

Have two children

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Whether you should want to go or not should depend on whether you considered them to be 'family' or not as far as you yourself are concerned.

    However with your children it's a different situation. They are a part of the family and they should attend family functions.

    But you are under no legal obligation to attend

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  • 1 decade ago

    If your children are still kids (too young to keep up contacts and visit people on their own), then yes, you are kinda obligated to attend family functions. Maybe you could have the children attend things in the care of someone else in the family (like an aunt or uncle or grandparent) if that's an option. The kids have a right to have both sides of their family in their life. They are litterally just as much a part of his family as they are of yours. Especially since their father passed away, they need that side of their family to help keep the memories of him alive. Because for the rest of their lives, memories are all they have.

    Peace to you in this difficult situation.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It is not an obligation, but so the children will know their fathers side of the family you may want to attend some but not necessarily all of them.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Later in life you will be glad you did.

    My uncle's first wife died and he has attended every function with his kids. The relatives really appreciate the fact that he has not left the relatives and family when he married another woman. In fact his new wife has been very welcomed. We like her and are glad that she comes too. She died and now the third wife is welcomed very well. We like her too. We all get along very well.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like a chore for you? the children need to know there family still. Obligated probably not to them, but to your children yes.

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  • Nena S
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    As long as everybody understands the rules of the game...

    Your ex-in-laws should understand you are now free to rebuild your life if you choose to do so.

    Depending on your children's ages, it would be advisable for them to see their father's family, IMO. But not if they are not nice or if they speak badly about you or your marriage.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well i would think that when you married your husband you became apart of his family, if you had no children i would say dont worry about it, but since you have their grandkids, you do need to make an effort and they need to make an effort so that they are in your childrens life.

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  • Muschi
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    NO you are not "obligated". How long were you married and how old are the kids? If they are older, no I wouldn't go, especially not if you're still hurting.

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  • 1 decade ago

    you need to b/c you have children by him..sorry to hear he's passed away! thats the right thing..if YOU in general,don't want to go to the gatherings,you oughta try and get someone from his family to come and get the kids for you and let them go...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There is no social protocol that says you have to, but the children may want to go.

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