Personally...I tend to go for well read, intelligent, has to be able to hold his own in a debate, outdoors type, adventurous, isnt the "man of the hour" but is loyal to his friends and family.
He doesnt have to be a self declared feminist......but he has to have the basic thoughts that men and women are equals. (I looked for a partner, not a "owner") if he give me any trouble over my jobs, or my independence we are done.
....I'm not super picky on body types, like and have dated several of them. Dont think sexual attraction is limited to one "type".
I have had all the situations with my husband as far as money.
I've made more then him.
He has made more then me
He has played SAHD while I worked
I've done the SAHM mom while he made the money
......honestly, as long as the bills are getting paid. No issues at all. If a couple loves and cares about each other, whats it matter who makes more money then the other???
Edit: what exactly was wrong with Rio's answer? It's an option, I suppose yall out in internet land know her better then herself?