When is it right to say "goodbye"?

When I was younger…I thought my ideas were the best for the world…..When I grew older, I learned to listen to the other side of the story…….and I learned a lot from doing so….I had been puzzled by my dad always following what my mom said….one day, I asked him; “dad why do you do ‘everything’ that mom wants?”….He... show more When I was younger…I thought my ideas were the best for the world…..When I grew older, I learned to listen to the other side of the story…….and I learned a lot from doing so….I had been puzzled by my dad always following what my mom said….one day, I asked him; “dad why do you do ‘everything’ that mom wants?”….He said; “because she’s right”….I said that means I always had to check the rightness of what you tell me coz she could be differing with your advice and I would have to take hers over your.” To which he replied; “no necessarily, but she’s right.”…..I kept on probing until one day when he said; ”my son, you’ll grow to understand why I’m doing what I’m doing. You’ll understand that it’s more important to listen to your mom than to do what I wanted to do. She’s sometimes wrong, but I weigh the likely outcome and decide to agree with her notwithstanding.” I’m blessed that I my parents never went to bed angry at each other. I remember during the 1985 state of emergency, my dad allowed the comrades to use the church….the police came and shot teargas….our missionary house was engulfed with teargas……my little cousin was badly affected….my mom was livid…..she told my dad that “we are here to spread the word of God, not to be involved in bosiyayinyova (political activists)…..my dad was just quiet. Years later, my dad said he decided to keep quiet coz he was not going to win that battle…….

Today, I’ve come to that stage on my own life……I’ve been persuaded to leave Yahoo. Unathi appreciates my fighting spirit…..but says I was leave. In the past few days, she had been saying that I must quit….advancing all sorts of arguments. I even tried to tell her that I’m at the edge of getting my prize from Bull. I also said I had just spoken to my Yang, the CEO of Yahoo, about my suspended account. She says she’s proud of me but I should quit. I asked my dad last night and he says I should do what would be best for me, and I must be careful not to believe that acceding to Unathi’s request/demand would make me a weakling….he is not a weakling…he’s living with a loving wife and respecting wife, my mom……

So, to all SA Regulars thanks guys for making my stay over the last twenty months such an experience……from DV, Tsepo, Inno, Cakes, Blue Bull, Alfie, Jowijo, Busi, TI, MJ, Ayiza, Kopano, HD, Bull, Bad Brad, Ferrari. Zxcv, turniton, skooby, checi, jeez, Lise, Road runner, Skyli, Nay, Jowijo, Styvies, Chicky, Porgie, Mshoza, Pitso, SAgirl, Wonder, Marrs, Ayanda …….I learned so much from you guys……you might not be aware but I respected each one of you….I differed with some but my mom taught me NEVER to be disrespectful to any person….in the eyes of your children and families each one of you are heroes and heroines, kings and queens…and there was no intention to demean any of you. If I did, I’m very sorry. I also pay tributes to those who for whatever reason decided to quit…people like Poepies, Unathi, Vango and others thanks for sharing your knowledge with nonentities like me……

I’m going to the other forum…where questions are never deleted and we post threads, meaning that the question can stay forever and you can still answer to a question posted in 2004 when the side started……in that way the lessons are not lost and you can make proper reference in your work or life situation…….

Peace!
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