My husband can be a very difficult man. We both work all the time and raise a family of 6 children. At the end of the day, he comes home and expects to be waited on, while not participating in what goes on to take care of a family and home. His attitude is that he put in a full days work (12 hrs +) and he's done. Well my argument to him was that I put in those kind of hours often too, not all the time, but still, even when I don't work as long, when I get home, I feel like my real work has just begun. A lot of resentment was created between us, because I felt like while he relaxed and lying down for a peaceful nights sleep, I'm still slaving away and pass out when I can't do anymore. So I prayed 'Lord change that man.' He led me to a verse where Paul was saying 'Wives submit to your husbands.' WHAT? Submit to that man? You mean do even more? He's already like another large child when he comes home. I thought, this can't be right, God can't be asking me to do this. Later that day, I turned on a Christian talk show, one i don't normally watch. John Bevere was on there talking about his new book, all about submitting one to another. I wanted to turn it off, but I watched and learned that submitting is not bowing down and serving hand and foot, it's about an attitude. Ok, so I had to admit that my attitude was pretty stinky. Later I learned the story of another early well known unbeleiver, turned pastor and his wife. He would lock her out of the house and make her sleep on the porch if she went to church, then in the morning he would let her in so she could cook his breakfast. But instead of busting him over the head with a frying pan, she cooked his breakfast and treated him with all kindness and respect. As a result, this mans life was completeky changed and he became a well known, powerful preacher in his day. I just can't remember his name. So I prayed, 'Ok God, I get the message, just please give me the strength to be obedient to you.' I decided to change my attitude toward him, had to bite my tongue many times, it wasn't easy, but as a result, over a little time, my husband actually helps cook, get kids ready for bed, and even helps with laundry and dishes. And our relationship has improved.