I completly understand what you're talking about. My wife had our first daughters first name picked out long before we even conceived, and she wanted me to pick the middle, so I went with her middle name. Our second daughter was my choice, and as soon as we heard the name, we just knew, and she named the middle name after me (Nicole, for Nick). Now she is 8 months pregnant with our third, and we decided to keep this one a surprise. My wife has had a boy name picked out for monthes, and wants me to ultimatly choose if it's another girl, but I just can't decide. This is going to be our last child, and I don't want to regret my choice:) Good Luck.