I have a daughter who is almost four years old. She was sexually abused at church by an older kid recently.?
We did everything we could talking to the church leaders and talking with our daughter. We know this happened many time before we found out. People are telling us not to worry about it because she wont remember this later on. But she has dreams about it and talks to us about it. And on the days that she does she is really mean to her 5 month old brother. She has bit his arms until they bleed, last time she scratched his face, neck arms and hands until they were bleeding. I want her to talk to someone but she wont talk to people she doesnt know. I dont know if I should listen to the people who say dont worry about it or try to get her to talk to my psychiatrist since she knows him. They say she will just get over it but I dont know if thats true, and I dont know how to keep her from hurting her little brother. She also has started throwing stuff and will also hit me and her daddy. Please help.
Just to let yall know, its not like I didnt report it to the proper authorities. I atleast know that much. But there isnt much they can do since there is not a whole lot proof about it since we didnt find out right away. But it has been reported.
- 1 decade agoBest Answer
Corona is right she may forget about it conciously but it will always be there and will affect her behavior and trust forever. You need to take her to a child therapist , it may take more than one because she needs to feel comfortable with them. Nothing will take her pain away but therapy will help her understand how to deal with it. Good Luck my heart goes out to you.
- 1 decade ago
Like everyone else is saying you need to get her professional help. From personal experience I can tell u she will remember when something like that happens it just does not go away. She is lashing out because nobody is doing anything. She needs to know and be shown that u will do what ever it takes to protect her and help her heal. She may not talk to a therapist right away give it time. I pray that u and ur husband make the right decision.
- RBLv 51 decade ago
She won't just get over it. The people telling you that are trying to protect their church and it's integrity. Take her to a children's psychiatrist and file a report with the authorities. The child that abused her needs help also and by either you or the psychiatrist reporting this happening, he will get the help he needs. Good luck and God Bless.
- 1 decade ago
In every person there are both god and demon.And,when the power of demon increases then he do thus hinus crime.Actually,we have become too much modernized that most of the parents have no time to see that what their childern are doing in the society?Also,some time we do those un-lawful and anti social activities(i.e kissing, touching some parts of the body or watching adult movies) in front of our relatives that we don't do if we want to keep clean and healthy atmosphere around us.Because, our children would do or copy each and every activities which we do.Also,it is impossible to forget this incident.In my opinion,keep her busy in some creative activities for a better physical and mental development. And as soon as she would grow up gradually she will forget all these non-sense things with due to course of time. And do not allow to enter bad persons in your house and be very careful and keep your eyes open while she is doing or talking with strangers and don't leave alone anywhere.Have strong faith in almighty God,he is the saver and well wisher of all of us.
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- CoronaLv 51 decade ago
The people that are saying she won't remember, and she will get over it, are idiots. Take her to your psychiatrist, or better yet, a child psychatrist. Even if she doesn't talk for MONTHS, she will eventually start talking. Then the healing will start. Don't sweep this thing under the rug. That's what those people are wanting you to do. I hope you pressed charges.
- tony_le12Lv 51 decade ago
Well, Sorry for what happen to your daughter. as i see, It is a night mare for her so i don't think she can just get over it that easy, or she will never get over it. When you lost your trust on other is hard to be able to trust again.
she need help. should keep trying until you find some one that she can feel the trust and want to talk too. wishing you with lot of luck
- 1 decade ago
Perhaps the reason she is lashing out at her brother is because she has now turned against males because of that experience. You need to seek help for her because otherwise she will never recover and for the rest of her life, sub-consciously, she may hate males forever and never be able to trust one again. This could wreck all her future relationships if she remembers about it and is suffering.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Four year olds can remember things and if she talks about it, it is stuck in her head.
She may never forget it, but you can take her to some one to talk to. Let her get to know the doctor then she will talk to him/her about it.
It will help her move past it some, but she will probably always remember it.
I had a similar experience when I was about three and I remember it so clearly.
- DalarusLv 71 decade ago
The people who are telling you not to worry about it are idiots. Sexual abuse leaves a mark on any child, and five years old is definitely enough to have lasting memories and damage.
Talk to a professional. Ignore the idiots who are telling you to ignore the sexual abuse against your daughter.
- ?Lv 43 years ago
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