It disturbs me greatly that there is no specialized training for transracial adoptions. I think there should be more mandatory education for all types of adoption.
I do agree that there needs to be some specialized training in transracial adoption. I think there are special considerations that need to be investigated and addressed. Most of us here, evidenced by the fact that we ARE here, and learning and questioning - we're the ones who probably took the time to educate ourselves, read the books, do the research, reach out to find others. Not everyone does that.
I guess I base this on the changes that have occured for my husband and I since we've been in research mode. We initially thought we knew pretty much everything we would need to know about race relations when we chose to not put any "restrictions" on race. I have said, my whole life, that "race doesn't matter to me" - and it hasn't, when it has come to friends, family members, coworkers, boyfriends, bosses, employees. But now we'll be talking about my child. And though it doesn't matter to me what race they are, it sure will matter to them - and therefore it has to matter to me. Because I want them to be proud of who they are, not ignore who they are. And by saying over and over (even if in my own head) that race didn't matter, it was sort of insulting. Had I not broken out of my comfort zone, read the books I've read, had the more difficult (difficult because I was asking them to be completely honest with me, and talk about things that we all tend to not want to talk about) conversations with friends and family members (who are in interracial marriages and have biracial children), I don't think I would be ready for this. I hadn't really thought before about how I'll be in a "visible family" - and I love to blend into the background - I had to come to the point where I realized that this is going to change everything. The book "Black Baby White Hands: A View from the Crib" was eye opening for me
This was all at the urging of my agency, but mostly comes from my natural affinity for research. Again - not everyone would do that. If making it an education requirement means that the people who wouldn't naturally read or research or talk about these things now has to, then I'm all for it. In the end, I think it could only benefit the children. Even if it means we have "another hoop" to jump through, another requirement, if it benefits them - I guess I think that's what it is all about.
I think the law, about having to place children with no regard for race or color takes things a little too far in insisting that there be no mention of race or color. You can be sure the child is going to notice, the world at large is going to notice - so why are we not required to receive training in this? As much as some of us wish it weren't true - we live in a world where race matters. We can say it shouldn't be that way, that we don't want to live that way - but we can't escape the fact that for a lot of people, it still very much matters. We can work to change it. But we can't ask kids to live in the world the way we want it to be, we have to be realistic about the way it is - and prepare ourselves, and our children, for it.