I m a 34 y/o man and my stance on sexuality has been a long and tedious struggle. It s been tough only due to the fact that for some reason everybody else wants to judge me based on my orientation, so I spent many years trying to categorize myself into one of the major groups. Finally, I found myself to be closer to A-sexual more than anything else, although I m not A-sexual, it s just the closest way to describe my orientation without going into the details of my sexuality. That said, maybe I can help shed some light into the mentality behind people discovering their sexual natures.
Attraction. This has been a big issue through my life, understanding what actually attracts me to someone and being able to admit to myself of people who I m attracted to without worrying about being judged for it by others. Being a guy isn t as easy as it seems, showing any kind of affection to the opposite sex much more the same sex is grounds for every other guy around to ridicule you and I don t just mean romantic affection. It s not just guys, women will ridicule you the same way. Discrimination knows no sex, color, or orientation, unfortunately all people like to hate.
The funny thing I ve found with attraction is how it evolves or at least how it has evolved for me. As a child, it was supermodels and porn stars, mostly because that was all I had access to, as I got older it was features like beautiful eyes, boobs, or butts, then even older I was attracted to women who I had absolutely no attraction towards, trying to find attraction, and now it s more about the face and the interest shown towards me that attracts me.
My point is, as a human being myself, like all other humans, we try to find those things in life that make us happy. We attract to people who we have fun and are happy with. What happens is sexuality becomes less about sex and more about finding people who you enjoy to be with regardless of gender, race, or even physical beauty. I mean, why do you care how someone else finds their happiness, maybe you should stop focusing on other people and go find someone you can be happy with.
Later, hope this helps.