I have been a mom for 28 years to 4 kids who are now 28, 26, 23, and 10. I have also provided child care in my home for 20 years. Every person brings their own set of experiences, beliefs, and goals to the job of parenting. I don't believe there is any one right or wrong way to parent, but there are many different ways to parent. If you love your baby, want what is best for him, and are not harming him in anyway then you are a good parent. Every parenting philosophy has a few out-spoken strong supporters, but that doesn't make it right for everyone. I wouldn't fret too much about being called a "detached" parent if the only other option is being called an "attached" parent. Some parents thrive on being with their babies 24/7, but most parents I know need a little break now and then. Some babies love the co-sleeping and baby wearing life while others just want some space of their own. While breast feeding has many benefits and is the recommended way to nourish your baby, choosing to formula feed is a reasonable alternative choice that works best for some moms and babies. Based on my experience, I don't think you are bad or lazy parents. There are so many opinions and the advice of some can be confusing. I say trust your mom instincts, they are quite strong and will get stronger with use. Sometimes you'll make mistakes, and that is OK. Children are quite resilient and can turn out remarkably normal in spite of our parenting mistakes. I think you are a fine parent.