I've been married for 33 years. My wife wanted a renewal of vows ceremony, but I always disagreed with it and she didn't push the point. A vow, an eternally-binding oath before God in front of your friends, is not something that needs to be renewed. Or so I thought. I have come around to Suzanne's way of thinking, because so much has happened in our lives since we got married those years ago. We aren't the same people anymore, and we are still together because we grew and changed in more or less the same direction at more or less the same time. I don't think it's reasonable to infer that, just because someone wants a recommitment ceremony, there is necessarily guilt over infidelity. You are not sky-writing anything to anyone. In fact, you could also argue that NOT having a recommitment ceremony is evidence that you regret the decision to get married in the first place. That may or may not be true. If you and your husband want to have a recommitment ceremony, I would be inclined to just go for it. However, for the ceremony to have real meaning, it should be after at least twenty years. After all, many couples part company as soon as the kids are grown and gone.