I wonder why she's freaking out...? Perhaps she is just hoping that it will spark some meaningful conversation with you and some attention from you. I always looked forward to my interviews when I was a youth. It was a time to sit and chat with some of the leaders of the ward. I would always ask them questions about life or church doctrine, and I always felt that they offered thoughtful answers.
Some leaders are perhaps more open to having meaningful conversations than others, but I don't ever recall feeling uncomfortable during a "worthiness" interview.
Youth leaders in our church do want to make sure that you keep the commandments. We believe that keeping the commandments will bring happiness in this life. You can read about the commandments in Preach My Gospel (see link below...) Preach My Gospel is the book that the church uses to teach the missionaries how to teach people about the church. In Chapter 3 are all the lessons that the missionaries teach... Lesson 4 is about the commandments. Generally interviews with the youth are somewhat unstructured, but will ask about the commandments that are in lesson 4. I never recall rote, or a list of questions. In lesson 4 they even talk about how to structure a baptism interview... which is a worthiness interview.
Every interview is very different, so here are some insights from my interviews...
- I was generally a quiet kid... so to spark conversation I was sometimes asked true/false, yes/no questions, as a way to open up conversation.
- I don't recall being asked for explanations, but I suppose if they don't understand you then they would ask.
- I've never used a lie detector (Its usually really easy to tell when someone is lying). But I never got the point of lying, anyway?
- I don't see it beyond the scope of an interview to probe... If the leader felt that there was something bothering, and they felt they might be able to help.
- I've never felt uncomfortable in an interview... I definitely never heard of any of the stuff that the sheep with shotguns was talking about...
But, I would like to give some insight that I learned from swimming about commandments and "worthiness". When you jump in the water, if you want to swim fast then there is a set of rules that exist (they exist independent of us), to which if we are obedient we gain MORE FREEDOM in the water... In other words, the freedom to swim through the water is derived from learning laws and binding ourselves in obedience to certain laws of fluid dynamics. The better you are at obeying those hydrodynamic laws the more freedom is obtained to move through the water. It is the act of obeying that results in increased freedom. WELL, I believe that there are a set of societal, universal laws that exist independent of us that govern success and happiness. In order for us to be really happy and prosperous then we must learn those laws and bind ourselves in obedience to them. This will result in maximal happiness. In the church, we believe that these laws have to do with respecting ourselves, improving our spirituality, improving our talents, etc. We believe that the role of prophets (you know like Moses and Isaiah) is to communicate those laws that will help to make us happy. In a worthiness interview, a leader will typically ask about those commandments that are in Lesson 4 of Chapter 4 of Preach My Gospel... I hope this is helpful.
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