This is not an answer to your question, but a response to cyan. You really should get your facts straight. Domestic violence is perpetrated by men on women more than by women on men. Women also do not report and in greater numbers than men. I know being a survivor myself, there were incidents of dv with my ex at least 3 times a month and more than that at the end. I only reported twice - so my percentage rate of actual incidents versus reported incidents would be about 1%. Close to 200 incidents (probably more than that) and I only reported twice. It is prven that men are groomed to violence more so than women. Also I would truly be interested in the studies you quote. If the have anything to do with conflict scales, then your results are also skewed as you claim these results are. To those who have no idea what conflict scales are - here is a short simplified explanation. You have a husband and wife (husband is H and wife is W) for this survey. H gets mad at wife and starts screaming at her (no touching yet) in her face, spitting etc. This is not considered violence under the conflict scales as no physical contact has been made. H continues on in this fashion for a long time. W gets tired of this and pushes him or pushes through to get away from him. Okay W has 1 point on the scales. H now smacks W. They are now tied. W again pushes H or maybe she even slaps him. W is now 2-1. H gets really mad and punches W. Tied now. W now slaps again or maybe she throws something at him. W is now ahead. H now shoves W to the ground and starts pounding her. Tied now. But at the end of this example who is worse off? W who is laying on the ground - a bloody pulp, or H who has a few red marks on his face from being slapped? And how did this start? H got mad at W and was screaming obscenities. spitting, invading the personal space of W. And what did W do that was so awful? She tried to get away. Yet in the conflcit scales, they are both equally violent.
Yep folks this study is highly quoted by your local fanatical men's rights groups (more specifically fathers rights). Now honestly I would like to know if you met up with a stranger on the street and they responded to you in the manner that H did to W (screaming, spitting, personal space invasion), would you sit there and listen, or would you try to get away from the lunatic? Gee that was a no-brainer. So what gives a man the right to treat a woman in this fashion? Just because they are married or in a relationship? Staistically speaking (this is true research from the FBI), a man who is convicted of killing an intimate partner gets 1/2 the time that a woman would get for killing her intimate partner. Sentences for men (the unpublicized cases), a man can typically receive a 10 yr or less sentence for killing his wife or girlfriend.
Wake up folks and smell the coffee. DV is everywhere, men do it way more than women, and unless we hold them accountable, it will never end. This means automatic jail. Helping women become self sufficient (not having to rely on alimony or child support). Provide better temporary housing for survivors (apartments - not shelters). Give women GOOD attoys for court, not overworked underpaid legal aid lawyers. Enough evidence for RO, no custody of children - automatic. DV means no custody of kids.
I have spent the last 4 years gathering info on dv and I am a survivor.