HE is a HE and has always been a HE and will continue to be a HE.
You want to know how it's possible? I'll tell you, because I am one of these people. I'm not currently pregnant, but I could be in this guys position if I so chose.
You think it's easy? You think it's a hoax? Let me tell you how a typical life of a transgender man goes:
First you spend years of your life questioning yourself and who you are and why you dont' like things other "girls" like or do things other "girls" do. You question your whole identity or you KNOW who you really are, but no one will treat you the way you want to be treated, telling you things like "girls dont' do that" ect.
Then you finally find a resource that says that there is help available to you and it's called being transgendered or transsexual.
So, you follow the protocol called the Harry Benjamin Standards of Care.
Then you see a therapist and depending on how long he or she feels it takes to reach the diagnosis, he or she will diagnose you with Gender Identity Disorder or Gender Dysphoria. Isnt it nice how you have to get "approval" to be who you are? Must feel nice never having to go through that right? Yet another gender privilege for the cisgendered people that they take for granted.
Then, you get to see a doctor who puts you on hormones that you either rub on, take as a pill, or inject directly into your muscles. I take the injections, and I had to learn how to give them to myself. Of course, the testosterone, the office visits, the blood work, the gynecologist stuff all costs money, most of which isn't covered by insurance. Oh..look, yet another cisgendered privilege we don't get. Not to mention, cisgendered pepole rarely have to deal with the unsolicited opinions of the nursing staff and doctors who grudingly provide our care.
Then, after a year of living as the gender we were supposed to be in the first place, we might get the opportunity for surgery. Now, most female to males choose to get chest reconstruction to gain a flat chest like a bio male. This ranges from $6,000 to over $8,000 depending on complexity. Again..not covered by insurance in most cases, so the cost comes out of pocket.
And then there's genital reconstruction, but since we don't get insurance coverage, many FTM's don't get this surgery because it can cost well around $100,000 will all the surgeries involved, and the results aren't perfected yet.
Oh, and then I forgot all the other little things, like a new wardrobe, losing your significant other because they can't handle your transition, as well as your family and friends. Beign denied employment or losing your job if you transition on the job because you aren't given any employment protections (yet another cisgendered privilege) Some of us lose our homes, our children, our jobs, everything. All to risk being who we really are.
Oh and then there's also the cost of a legal name and gender change. That costs money too. The name change alone cost me $350.00. Plus all the hassle I had to go through to get it. I had to go to the police station, get a fingerprint card done, write up the order, file the order, get a notary, ect ect. Big hassle..along with the DMV and Social Security office.
I'm still dealing with it in regards to my credit report and selective service. Things still aren't matching in their system.
But, in order to legally change your gender, a female to male only has to have ONE gender specific surgery, and that can mean just the chest reconstruction, because many surgeons understand the difficulties of female to males in regards to genital reassignment.
So..legally, he is a male, even with female reproductive organs. The end. I think after going through all that, someone can call themselves and be whatever the hell they want to be. Who are YOU to judge them?
I'm a transman.
· 1 decade ago