I praise you on making sure that your step kids know that you love them!
To answer your question if the kids want to call you mom, let them call you mom. However don't let them forget who their biological mom is, and don't talk bad about their biological mom around the kids either! It is not your place to tell them bad things about their biological mom, and in the long run you wouldn't want it to back fire on you either.. Your step children will always love their biological mom true, but you are special to them too, and you are the one they will come runing to whenever they need help or just want to talk.
I am one who lost custody of my two daughters to my ex, and he remarried. My children call my ex husbands wife mom all the time. At first I was very angry when my children called my ex husbands new wife mom, but then I got over it. I just don't like the fact that they call me Carolyn now, and get into trouble if they call me mom, now to me that is wrong, and I feel like she is kicking me out of the pictureof my children's lifes.
Anyways my ex and his new wife moved way across the country with our children, so now I hardly ever see or talk with my children. There is just a lot of hoopla going on in the situation, but hey atleast they are being loved, fed, and have a roof over their head. Guess life isn't fair sometimes. I thank my lucky stars, even though it is a crumby situation, that my daughter's are being well taken care of.
So yes I think it's alright for the step kids to call you mom!
· 1 decade ago