I think that arranged marriages have a lot going for them.
I am English and have 2 brothers and a sister.
Amongst that small group, our children have had the following experiences
Boy - married, re-married (one child) re-married
Boy - married (one child) re-married
Girl - married (three children) with new partner (with 3 children)
Boy - married (one child)
Boy - married (two children) re-married
Girl - married (one child)
Girl - married, remarried (one child)
Girl - married (one child) divorced
Girl - partner (one child) 2nd partner (one child) married (one child)
Boy - partner (one child) married
Do I need to go on? There are four more to come (younger so not actually at same stage as others)
My youngest daughter is now 26 and with a very unsuitable boy who has 2 children previously by two other girls.
I would love to arrange a marriage for her through my large group of female friends.But, of course, that would be frowned on. So, I must watch her making a terrible mistake and stand back and say nothing.
I know this isn't really helping you.
Look for kindness in a man, some one with a sense of humour, hard-working and who likes children. He may not be
exciting - but, I still love my husband and he has all those qualities. (35 years married). Don't be too pushy at first, and (dare I say it in this enlightened age) don't let him take too much before you are married