I have severe depression as well as being borderline. The person who said all of us borderlines are doomed to bad relationships was a royal JERK. That is SO not true. At least this girl was honest with you and didn't hide it. I am engaged, so I am living proof that borderlines can have good relationships. Granted, I tend to be dependent, and can be unstable at times, but thats usually when i am depressed. For me, it stems from being seperated from my dad at 1 1/2 and then only seeing him when he could come out here to see me and then having him leave me again ( hense the abandonment issues) and also from the verbal and emotional abuse I endured at the hands of my classmates in Elementary school because of ADHD. ( which I still have, only I am not hyper anymore.) I say give this girl a chance, but if she starts acting in a way that you know you can't handle, slowly back away. Living with this isn't easy but I am here, right? I am doing quite well these days, despite the fact that my mom has cancer. It can be managable, so don't automatically write her off. Give the girl a chance!
far too much experiance