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Anonymous asked in Arts & HumanitiesHistory · 1 decade ago

How did the wives of slave owners deal with the fact that their husbands raped black slaves?

I was wondering how the white women who were married to slave owners of the 1800's and before, in he United States dealt with the fact that they saw black slave women and slave girls having babies by their husbands.

The vast majority of "African Americans" are lighther skinned that the real Africans and we would find that our past traces back to Ireland, England, France, Germany ect.

How do you think the women who were married to slave owners dealt with the raping of black slaves by their husbands.

Plus, since some things never changed, there were white slave owners who were bi sexual and homosexual. Must have been a nightmare to be black in America before 1865 or so.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I think those women mostly turned a blind eye to it. They realized it was going on, of course, but I imagine very few of them ever confronted their husbands over it.

    Keep in mind that, at that time, a white man's wife was considered to be his "possession". His slaves were also his possessions. The white woman did hold a higher position than the black slaves, but they ALL (wife and slaves) "belonged" to the white man.

    Even women who might have wanted to speak out would have thought twice. A woman at that time was completely dependent upon her husband. Women did not work or earn money, so their only source of ... well, everything ... was whatever the husband provided.

    Very few women would have had the courage to confront their husbands. Those who did would have risked being beaten or otherwise punished by their husbands. The women "kept their place" (as their "place" was accepted to be at that time) and said little or nothing about the matter.

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  • 5 years ago

    Ofcourse, there will be people who would rather die than actually believe this.as fact. Mainly because it would seem to put white men in a bad light. As if this hasn't already been true for hundreds of years prior to slavery. And on the average these young female slaves were about 12 to 15 years old. And some would have you think that these slaves represented the more so called " close to white looking" slaves you'd be surprised. Mainly the slave owners and all other white males over 15 on most plantations looked for the most athletic looking young female slaves to use for their sexual desires . This was considerably normal during slavery in America especially in the south. These actions by most slave masters did not go unnoticed by their wives,and in most case used a a fake ruse of sorts to keep their wives in line. Ofcourse this was akin to threating them with something that was already occurring. Wives were no more than contraband,much like the slaves the of the plantation owners

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  • 1 decade ago

    The wives would have had to be blind not to notice half white babies being born on the plantation that looked A LOT like their husbands.

    I am sure they hated it and some got even by having sex with the black male slaves or other men.

    Maybe some did the "Lorena Bobbitt "thing on their husbands.

    The fact that most Black Americans are lighter than the Black Africans makes it clear that there was raping going on in the past by the black slave owners. The black slaves were powerless to say no.

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  • nosek
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    3 years ago

    Slave Wives

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  • 4 years ago

    The incidences of "rape" in its technical sense was rare between slave owners and female slaves. The vast majority were consensual since relations between the two meant a better life for the female slave. She would be allowed to live in the main house, have nice clothing, better food, easier work duties, etc. So considering how difficult a slave's life was already, having sexual relations with the slave owner meant a better existence for her and the children she would have with her master.

    • Crissie2 weeks agoReport

      This position is so ridiculous to border on comical but for the serious question it tries to address but fails woefully. Slaves were not at liberty to say 'No' to any demand of their supposed "masters." And it's well known and universally agreed that gross power imbalances are inherently coercive. 

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  • Sambo
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    1 decade ago

    Many cases of this happened in what was not spoken of "in polite society", as they called it back then. In fact, some unwritten rules were developed. For example, the slave girl that became her master's mistress would often times get special treatment on the plantation, as well as her bi-racial offspring. Some masters even gave these children an inheritance. The master's wife would sometimes even approve of her husbands actions as that ment he was leaving her alone. Once she married and had a couple of kids, the white woman was "done". Keep in mind, having children back then could be a potential death sentence. Having more slaves increased the value of the estate, even if the slaves where not sold, as the slaves could be mortgaged and used as secured collateral.

    I actually draw a parallel between the plantation owners and medieval lords, who did some of the same things. The plantation owners actually viewed themselves as successors of medieval lords.

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  • 1 decade ago

    This actually was not as widespread as you think. More often it was the sons and the overseers (most of them white) who were visiting the slave quarters and it usually was not rape because the black slaves got better treatment and gifts out of it. They couldn't say no, but they usually made the best of it.

    The wives reacted by either ignoring it or taking their husbands to task. Depended on how strong their marriage was. As for their sons.... well, they'd rather have them visiting the slave quarters than getting into trouble with some girl of their own class. The overseers they rarely knew about unless the man got brutal.

    When a nearly white child got born into the slave stock, they did object to the child being in the house. After all, it was a slave and they didn't need to have an uppity one. Such children (and their mothers) got sold fairly often. Quadroons (blacks who were 3/4's white) were more often found in towns than on plantations. The girls often ended up in the whorehouses and the boys often learned trades.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Short answer: DENIAL

    It would be the only coping mechanism a woman of that time would have.She might think it went on with other men but certainly not her own husband.

    Confrontation with husband? Not as likely as today.Women put up with allot back then

    Relief? Maybe.Many marriages were loveless business deals. If the man was down at the cabins he would not be in the wife's bedroom.

    Complain to friends and relatives? Doubtful. There was an immense shame in it. Besides she might learn that Daddy and Brother did the same.No.Family secrets.Open secrets.

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  • 5 years ago

    Beating the enslaved girl, said nothing, white women were also afraid that they too would be made a slave,or "sold" down river. Better than being with the slave, sexually, than themselves. Ignored the act of the rape or the relationship, after all, she was property too. The white woman s place in life would be taken from her (riches, place in society and inheritance after the death of her husband). Many women would murder her husband and sought many voodoo practices (hoodoo) and "do away" with her husband.

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