As a therapist, I work with people with very similar experiences. Often times, the rejection comes at the point in the relationship where he (or she) begins to express his true love/feelings for you. This causes mass discomfort, and you abandon the relationship.
Typically, these people (usually women) have a very deep-seated sense of worthlessness and self-loathing. As such, they never "expect" (on an unconscious level) to be treated as if they are worth more than a pile of dung. When this occurs, it is so incredibly unfamiliar and anxiety provoking, that the easiest thing to do is cut off the relationship. So, ask yourself: why don't I deserve to have a person who treats me with love and respect, who proves to me that I am worth something to him?
There are so many assumptions as to the possible "causes" of such behavior. To keep it simple, it likely has to do with your experiences during childhood- maybe you were neglected (emotionally/physically) by your parents, or you were forced into a position where intimacy was not allowed. Whatever the case, I encourage you to seek a professional relationship where you can explore these feelings more in depth.
· 1 decade ago