you know your husband more than anyone in this world... (except maybe his mommy) There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself.
is this out of character? i know you're hurt and confused and betrayed, but this is YOUR marriage and the answer depends on your history with your hubby.
has he ever done this before?
what sort of problems did you have leading to the discovery of the affair?
who did he have an affair with?
how were you acting towards him before the affair started? this may sound weird, but it takesTWO to build AND destroy a marriage.
do you want to save your marriage?
does HE want to save your marriage?
I know it's hard right now, but in the end, counselling is the best way to go. I know it;s such an obvious answer, but if you two are willing to go, then it says a lot about how much you BOTH want to save your marriage...and that is the best first step in resolving your conflict. They say that love conquers all... even after all the heartaches I've gone through, I still believe in those words.I wish you both the best of luck.
my own life experience