I'm with Phil...& Samone. There's nothing wrong with being appropriately angry or directing it at a correct (i.e., deserving) target. Being angry that (as adults) we can't get copies of our own original birth certificates, for example.
Or, as in my case, I can get a copy...with the written permission of my a. parents. Doesn't that seem a bit silly? I'm a grandmother, FGS. Yet I need written permission to get a copy of my birth certificate. Do you need your parents written permission to get a copy of your birth certificate? I already know my birth mother's name. Still....
It's when we're called "angry, bitter, anti-adoption" simply as a means to dismiss our ideas, concerns, thoughts, emotions, experiences. When we're not actually angry. When we tell our truth. When we speak what others don't want to hear.
When we're called "angry" because we advocate for REFORM in adoption laws & processes. Or because we share the negative side of adoption hoping to bring about positive change & a better understanding of the issues that affect adoptees.
So, yeah, it's OK to call me an "angry adoptee" when it comes to the laws that deny me access to my own information. I am a bit peeved about that. But it's not OK to dismiss me as "just another angry adoptee" because I believe that adoption should be about children FIRST, rather than about the PAP.
I believe that adoption is sadly the better option & sometimes the only option for a child to find loving parents & a home.
And...no...it's not OK to name call...not "anti-adoption trolls", nor "butthead", nor any of the other disrespectful terms people have used. It doesn't help make a point or bring understanding to this important issue.
Kudos, Sunny! That's it exactly!
Yes, LaurieDB! "For those who want to make adoption BETTER..."
happily reunited adoptee, former 'teen' mom...now mom of 4, proud yia yia & CASA volunteer www.nationalcasa.org