Well, I wouldn't really bother with a c-section if I were you. I understand that the fear of the unknown can be really over-whelming, especially for a first time mom. The pain of the labor itself is quickly forgotten. The pain can be managed easily with meds such as demerol. The actual delivery, I can't speak for. I haven't been able to have a successful vaginal delivery for whatever the reason. I HAVE however, had c-sections, and will not sit here and tell you that they are sheer bliss and way better than a vaginal delivery.
First off, your risk of complication is greater with a c-section, no matter how small the risk may be. The needle in the back for the spinal block isn't "so terrible". The c-section can't be felt other than some tugging. Recovery room time is roughly 1 hour, and if you're as lucky as me, you'll get to hear the doctor do his dictation about your delivery while you watch your blood pressure on a monitor on the wall in front of you. Then you're back to your room. Whether or not you choose to breast feed is another thing. I did. I had to somehow pull my body up to a sitting position in my bed while not being able to feel my lower body. When the spinal wears off, the pain is quite intense. The first day is the worst. The next day, the catheter is removed, and you need to get out of bed somehow and pee, and walk the halls too and be with your baby. It feels weird to pee at first for sure. Coughing, sneezing, laughing, and crying are all so painful. 3-4 days after baby is born, you can go home. But you can't do anything for 6 weeks (including sex), and no lifting anything heavier than your baby.
After all that I have said, WHY would you want to subject yourself to this if it is NOT a medical necessity?! I feel cheated that I didn't have a vaginal birth either time, and now it isn't possible for me....I'm stuck with c-sections (both of mine were medically necessary). You owe it to yourself to at least try it~~you may be done with 30 minutes of pushing! You never know until you try! (plus you recover way faster!!). PLEASE think this through.
Good luck and best wishes!
mom of 2 via c-section and medical assistant