My parents raised my son. He is now almost 20 (with a son of his own on the way), married and in the Air Force. He knew from Day One that I was his real Mom but my parents raised him. My boyfriend took off and never saw him. Ever. Period. My parents opted to have legal custody of him only because the lawyers told them that if something ever happened to them it would be difficult for me to get him back. No, I was never on drugs, never in jail. I was just young and got pregnant and the real father didn't stick around. My Mom BEGGED me to leave my son with her. I had younger siblings still at home at the time. My Mom was a stay-at-home Mom and I didn't want to be on welfare or have my son in daycare all the time. With my parents he would have both Mom and Dad, a big yard and everything provided for him. Do I regret it? Yes, a lot of the time. But I know to this day that I did what was right for him. I thought of him and not myself. My son and I rarely speak about his real father, by his own choice (I've tried off and on ... I think it bothers ME more than it does him). But I am sure that he knows I love him more than anything on this earth. I've been through counseling trying to come to terms with leaving him ... but my heart never did. I saw him a lot when he was really little and I eventually married a wonderful man. He always remained with my parents though, even though my husband wanted to go to court to get him back. I did not want to uproot him from my parents, his school and his friends. I'm not like that. I still would have loved to have had everyday life with him but it wasn't meant to be. I never had other children. I pray to God daily that I will be able to see my grandson on a regular basis .. but it will be tough with my son involved in the military life. I am extremely proud of him! My situation may be different from others, but I would say legal guardianship for a grandparent. You never know what your situation will be years down the road. . .