This is truly a sad situation...sorry to hear of it. Your sister has every right to be happy everyday of her life regardless of her sons views on the matter..I find it even more sad to think our legal system would allow a 13 yr. old child to control either parents life. I understand that your sister loves her son, but please remember who the Adult is,after all he is only a child and doesn't understand the meaning of love and happiness as of yet. If he would rather see his mother unhappy...you'll probably hate me for this her as well,but maybe she needs to concern herself with what she needs and if he doesn't like it maybe going to live with his dad isn't such a bad idea.She could always talk with him and try and get him to understand,but nobody and I mean nobody should have to live their life in misery in order to please someone else. It is wrong of her son to feel the way he does, I know divorce is hard on children,but they need to understand that things just didn't work out and both parents still love them. He should want his mom and dad to be happy and to move on. It could be true to, that his dad has put these thoughts in his head,so that his ex-wife can't move on and be happy,as he wanted custody from the beginning so that he wouldn't have to pay for support...this sounds to me like a big case of selfishness on dad and son's part. I could be wrong as far as the dad goes,but I think maybe I might be closer to the truth then we think...I hope I'm wrong though. The dad may just need to realize it's over between them and move the heck along and maybe try and make his son understand this as well. Be a man and explain to his son that his mother deserves to be happy and that she needs to move on to find that in which she seeks in her life...Divorce isn't just bad for children,it can sometimes be bad with Adults as well.Unfortunatly one or the other sometimes becomes very vindictive to the other,and use the children to act out that vindictiveness.Hope this helps and best of luck and wishes to your sister...may she find that in which she seeks and let no one stand in her way. Goodbye.
· 1 decade ago