He is, what he does. A Wanker!!
This type of guy is the one that makes women think that ALL men are animals. Porn is the weaklings way out of having a real relationship, with a real woman. Porn is for men who are unable to be real men. Porn is for men who can't get it usually, so, if he can get it freely from you, his loving wife, I'm afraid that you have picked a loser there, my poor girl. It's not going to get any better until HE deals with it, not YOU. If you are putting in an effort to draw his attention away from porn, as you say you are, then he needs a good kick in the goo-lies, to jump start him again into real life. I'd try some sort of shock treatment, if regular attempts like communication & counselling fail. He should think himself lucky that his wife is wanting a love life, when there are stacks of loving guys out there, stuck in loveless relationships with cold, hard, half women, disguised as wives. Another sad case of destructive incompatibility. Why can't all the cold men, marry the cold women, and like wise for the loving men & women. Good luck