Should someone inform the husband?

My ex of 4 yrs. left me because he couldn't deal with all the fighting over his alcohol addiction. I was willing to work on our relationship because outside of his addiction we were still very loving & affectionate towards each other . A month later he has hooked up with a married woman & now claims he loves her even though she is still with her husband. I know that right now he thinks things will be different with her because she only see the good parts not, the whole picture. I have heard that she is planning on asking him for a divorce & wants to marry my ex which infuriates me because I still love him & feel that I was never given the chance to work on our relationship-I'm sure she doesn't know much about me. Anyways, should her husband be informed that she is planning on leaving him. I know nothing about her relationship with her husband except that he did find her cell phone with messages on it from my ex & was not happy. I do not know what she has told him but, shes still there.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    you are the ex accept it. And stay the out of it. sounds like you need to work on healing the relationship with your self. do you really want an alcoholic back, he chose booze over you.

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  • 3 years ago

    It all depends upon the way you feel he will react. You might threaten to depart or say you believe like leaving subsequent time such-and-such occurs, however hon, when you feel there may be even the slightest hazard to you or your little one, do not inform him, simply move. And do not inform him in which. It's as much as you at that factor to make a decision whether or not to name him, probably through phone cellphone, to allow him understand you are OK. But I do not feel that is going to make matters any larger among you 2. If he is not seeking to recognize you, then neither speaking nor counseling usually are something instead of a waste of time. Make a plan and placed matters in situation such as you could if you were not coming again in any respect.

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  • 1 decade ago

    The only person whose business it is to tell that husband that his wife is leaving him, is his wife.

    The relationship in that marriage is not your business. At all. The relationship that your ex is in, that is not with you, is not your business, at all. I'm sorry to be so blunt when I know you are hurting, but you need to let this guy go. It sounds like while the ex was addicted to alcohol, you are addicted to him. Only you can change that, and one of the ways to do that is by keeping sane boundaries between you and him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I think you should mind your business, and count your blessings that his problems are no longer yours. He your ex, HE LEFT YOU because he could not deal with the fact that you did not want him to drink.

    Leave it alone, If you do not you will spend your whole life cleaning up after his mess.

    You got a lot of time on your hands, May I suggest you take some extra hours at work, go back to school or take up a hobby, (anything but a P.I. tho)

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  • 1 decade ago

    Did you say EX? Did you say that in 4 years you did not have a chance to work on your relationship? Why are you still following this failed relationship? Where are your boundaries? Why were you with a drunk? Concentrate on you. Fix you. Then, find someone new.

    Source(s): School of hard knocks.
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  • 1 decade ago

    No. Let your husband know you will not be wasting your time waiting for him to divorce the bottle. You will not love him forever, you will get sick of him and his booze. Deal with it now, go to counseling, seek the help of friends, go to church, whatever, but get out to this vicious cycle. If he cleans up, he may have a chance with you. Don't go to extremes, take it slow but please respect yourself and don't fight over an alkie. He is a big boy. Let him suffer a little until he wakes up. Good luck

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  • MYRA C
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    1 decade ago

    This is actually none of your business, is it?

    Your marital problems were resolved by divorce but you didn't move on with your life.

    If you think you still love your ex-spouse why did you divorce 4 years ago?

    Time to let go, move on, get a life, you only have one life to live.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Your husband is an alcoholic, ergo, his judgement is severely impaired. Unless you can get him to want to stop and go to AA meetings, there is nothing you can do...alcoholics are time bombs unless and until they seek help.

    Her husband will find out and if you tell it will only create more tension.

    Best leave it alone and encourage him to go to AA; if he refuses then forget him, he will never change and if it isn't this skank it will be another just like her.

    You need to attend some Al Anon meetings to get a better understanding of how alcoholics behave.

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  • 1 decade ago

    No you should not inform her husband. If he found the messages on the cell phone then he already knows. It is not your place to tell anothers woman HUSBAND that she is leaving him just because she is seeing your EX BOYFRIEND.

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  • 1 decade ago

    an alcoholic?? your fighting and jealous over an alcoholic ex?? Oh my!! if hes happy with her then fine, live and let live, the husband dosent need to know, is none of your bussiness hes your ex, leave him alone and get a life of your own.

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