Two “must reads” I recommend for parents are:
Children: The Challenge by Rudolf Dreikers
Presents no-nonsense advice and techniques for dealing with many misbehaviors using natural and logical consequences.
P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon
Addresses issues of family communication, conflict resolution, and raising responsible children without shame or punishment.
Some other great books to take a look at:
Redirecting Children’s Behavior by Kathryn J. Kvols
Provides many techniques to guide families to become close, cooperative, and respectful. Provides great ways to set limits in positive ways. Helps solve the “mystery” of why children misbehave.
Discipline Without Tears by Rudolf Dreikers
Stresses encouragement, cooperation, and disciplining children lovingly and effectively.
Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Very good for “strong willed” children. Provides specific tool to work with “spirited” children.
Guiding Young Children by Eleanor Reynolds
Practical problem solving techniques that exclude the use of punishment, blame, or guilt. Presents techniques for developing listening skills, negotiation, conflict resolution, and setting limits.
Discipline That Works by Thomas Gordon
Provides evidence that punitive discipline and punishment are harmful to children and are ineffective as a means to fostering children’s good behavior. Provides strategies to help children control their own behavior.
Run far away from anything by James Dobson. He offers abusive advice. He claims that his techniques will teach your children to love, respect and obey you, but in reality it only teaches them to fear you.
Hope this helps! Happy reading!
Montessori preschool/kindergarten teacher (13 years experience)