Advice regarding mother in laws threats?
I need some advice please.
I am a mum to 6 children and have had some problems with my father and hus partner with the children. I accept that my children should not be left alone with either of them but my mother in law is threatening me that if my children go near my dad she is calling social services. My dad is not that bad and ebcause she does not like him she is blowing everything out of proportion.
I am so so upset that she is threatening me and my husband (her son) and would like some advice on how to shut her up legally.
She is a control freak and likes to control evrything and I cant cope with her anymore.
I appreciate she worries about the children, but I cannot understand why she is threatening me with social services over a small problem.
My dad is just a pain in the *** and play fights with the kids but I must admit he is a bit rough sometimes. He is very strict and the kids dont like him. He is in a very respectable job!
His partner is a T*** but thats all. Because she wears short skirts my mother in law is out to get her.
- Kat GLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
I don't understand what you mean by he is not so bad? If your children do not like to be around him that is a "RED FLAG" regardless of what he does for a living. You will not leave your kids alone with him so your there like a watch dog? This is not about your mother in law, this is about your children. If a family member is going to the extreme of calling social services for children who DO NOT want to be around your father & you are not comfortable leaving them with him. You need to wake up and keep your kids away. Abuse comes in many forms.
- ScouseLv 71 decade ago
If she can threaten you with Social Services and actually frighten you the problem withn your father and his partner is a small is not a small one. If they can not be left alone with them it is a big one. Sometimes approaching Social Services or Barnadoes for advice takes the wind out of a critics sails. I think they would be happier with you going to them rather than the other way round, the "small " problem with your father worries me somewhat and I wonder what the can of worms is here
- AslanLv 61 decade ago
i would say DOCUMENT everything as and when it happens - keep hold of evidence regarding whatever your mil does
then get legal advice once you feel you have exhausted conferences with you and your husband - you her and other adult family members, you your husband her and significant others (a clergyman or social figure she may respect the opinions of)
then take legal advice from someone familiar with family law so that you know what your rights are when it comes to dealing withs omeone like this (and if it came up with social services this legal person would be in a position to speak out on your behalf
- futuretopgun101Lv 51 decade ago
You dont say what the problems were with your father and his partner.
Depending on what they are/were then social services will or wont get involved regardless of what your mother says.
You cant shut your mother up legally but she could get in trouble for continually wasting social services time.
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- pAgnAliALv 41 decade ago
how awful! i would clearly tell her that if she cannot stop threatening "your" family then you will be forced to protect "your" family by not including her in it!
i wish i knew what to tell you exactly. i did a search online for articles about how to deal with mother-in-laws, but nothing specifically that will give legal advice. try doing a search for "mother-in-law politely get lost" on yahoo. there are lots of stories and advice.
good luck and i hope you can work things out.
- emmaLv 61 decade ago
Your husband should be having a word with her if it was me i wouldn't put up with my mum saying that tell her if she rings the social she will never see the children again hurt her as she is with you
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You should tell your mum-in-law to p off literally, they are your kids not hers, you should call Social Services about her!
- proud grandmaLv 51 decade ago
There should me only one issue here. That is the fact that your children don't like your dad. HELLO!!! The fact that you admit he plays to rough....HELLO!!
That is what you should be worried about front and foremost!
Your children are at stake here.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
tell her to shut up--they are your kids..not hers.
if she is threatning social services then the problem must not be too small..and even if she does call them,when they contact you explain to them what is going on.
- poopsieLv 51 decade ago
well I had a mother in law who was controlling,intimidating,and manipulating, no that I'm older I would just tell her yo myob, and it depends on what your dad did!!!! is he a registered sex offender??? was he in prison??? is he a drunk???? if I were you I would call the social services myself, and see what they say about it!!!! tell them your mom in law is harrashing you!!!