four year relationship turning up side down?
I have a great girl friend well i had a great girl we purchased 10 ace rs about 10mo, ago because she wants to build a house sounds good to me so i take care of all the banking and buy it, short while later she wants to know why i haven't went to get all the banking taken care of for the house i said that I'm still trying to make up for the time i missed on the land, cant you take care of this one she said fine so i wated to see if she was going to do anything and the next thing i no is that it's been all most 4-months since i've had sex and now she wants to break up i tried to go take care of the banking but she wont let me she's telling me that she wants to be alone, and she dont love me anymore i dont know what to do i love her with all my heart. what can i do to put things back?
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
A few questions for you: I'm thinking you failed to mention some details. How about that little detail that you're living in HER house on land SHE owns independently of you? How about the fact that she made it clear to you 4 years ago that she had no interest in marrying you or anyone? How about it that you tried to force an engagement ring on her this July past and she hit the ceiling because you either aren't paying attention or just have no respect for her wishes? How about it that you're manly reaction was to stomp away and pout for a few days? How about it that she asked you to please move out of her house the same month and you promised you would? How about it that she even helped you look for an apartment/house just to get rid of you? How about it that one of the major reasons she wanted your butt out of her house is that you're a slacker and weren't taking care of bills INCLUDING those stupid 10 acres of land? How about the fact that she asked you to just take her name off the paperwork for the land and she would call it square? She wasn't asking you to sell it and give her half, she was asking you to remove her from ownership and financial liability on anything associated with you hoping you would just take a hike. How about it that you BOTH put that land up for sale and now you're waffling and YOU want to build your own home on it and are probably telling everyone the two of you are building a house together?You aren't effed over, you're effed up. How about your sudden interest in and denial of porn she found in her house hidden in a kid's video? What? You say burglars broke in, watched a porno video, downloaded the same on your computer and then left? The burglars didn't take the TV or the computer, they just watched a little porn with the freaking pitbulls and doberman who live in the same house? Good God, no wonder she wants you gone. You're spineless. You have all the tactics of a little girl. You have no respect for her wishes and clearly none for yourself. You can pretend to be a love struck puppy and total victim all you want. Maybe you don't know any better. You should slap your parents for that. You don't love her or yourself enough to go away with a little dignity. You don't have the balls to admit to yourself, your friends or your family that your relationship is over and YOU are the reason for it falling apart. You've established that your word isn't worth crap and now you're posting this boo hoo BS thinking some total stranger is going to give you relationship advice? How big an idiot are you? Wait - I don't even want to know my choices on that one. No one cares about your manufactured tale of woe. You're a liar and a fool. And you bring up your absent sex life? Who, in their right mind would even consider having sex with a pathetic loser like you? Find someone who isn't wise to the lying sack of crap you are and go for it. But don't get too close. Once they know you, they'll dump you too. Grow some stones pal, and go away fast.
- TaurisLv 41 decade ago
There appear to be gaps in your story. Did she break up with you because you didn't acquire the land? If so, sounds like getting this land was more important than the relationship. She probably felt let down by you. This disillusionment festered for four months until she longer wished to continue the relationship. Doesn't seem like it was a strong relationship to begin with. Just move on and find someone else.
- 1 decade ago
I would ask if she would like to go for counseling 4 years is a long bit a time to throw away . Just tell her everything be honest .If she stil loves you she will go to counseling .I think she will Best of luck
- Diana$@$Lv 61 decade ago
its not easy,sometimes you have to let it go.even tho u love someone.(i was in a 5 yr and it ended & i really was inlove)So,you can only hold on for so lond if it doesn't work out just sell the acers.and keep on w/ your life.you never know you might find someone to love again.(i did).
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- KayKayLv 61 decade ago
cut ur losses dude your being played! That snatch can't be that great! Move out tonight, go out to the nearest bar and get laid! Then get back to work build your nest egg and find a gal that is worthy of you. That one is a ho
- LizLv 71 decade ago
Consider yourself lucky that
(a) you found out before you got married and
(b) you only wasted four years instead of a lifetime.
You've been played.
- reinformerLv 61 decade ago
She just using you so unless the sex is totally out of this world. drop her and get a new good one. Lots of replacements out there.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Lose her quick. She wants everything her way, and her way only. There is no respect for you, at all. She will only get worse. Better if she's someone else's headache.
- TotesLv 41 decade ago
Spill your heart to her. Let her know how you feel. Then, listen to what is exactly bugging her and let her know you will do whatever it takes to fix your relationship.
- Go GO RessaLv 51 decade ago
You have to move on. When someone tells you that they want to live without you, believe them!