maybe your a be- itch? LOL well I had not wanted my former husband- i lost respect-dirty, nappy, gross weight, more into himself being plzed -was not about what made me climax, so reverse all - that- and sometimes it is "US". sometimes 'we' have to keep him interested! perhaps you stopped respecting-talking-petnames, the touchy feely, things. perhaps kids mortgage stress-the other woman-the other man, YOU WILL never ever know- untill he tells u, if in fact he ever does. so best of luck with ur mariage-BUT DO NOT listen to us. We do NOT know him or you. You need a good marriage therapist, and put on your red shoes, perfumes, and go about your life, go have some fun-leave him at home, u may start seeing what it is-they always become more interested in us, when we are busy and liked-then he might come around. You will have to be strong-fake having a great time away from him, till u start having fun, because through all this u must be HAPPY-self happiness is important.