I think taking baby steps toward dating by going out to meet women through friends or social groups isn't a bad idea. It's commendable that you're concerned about the impact that it would have on your children, and since you have custody for the month that you're at home (and I'm not clear where you work when you're overseas and what the social life is like there), you will have to negotiate your social life around your childrens' lives. Ideally, I wouldn't suggest introducing any dates into your childrens' lives unless they were going to be a long term and stable part of your life, because stability for them is a big need for them.
I've always suggested meeting people through friends and social groups (churches, hobbies, etc.). Internet dating isn't necessarily a bad idea, though I've heard mixed responses from clients who have tried this.
Good luck to you.
Personal opinion, based on experience as counselor and sex therapist.
· 1 decade ago