Am I sad for a good enough reason?

I am all depressed today because I havent ever had a boyfriend and I am gay, and I dont know if I am sad right now for a reason that is easy to understand, I am lonely like... pretty lonely. and I had this friend who was thinking about being gay, and he knew I was, and he liked me. and I almost got to have a boyfriend but he moved and like my friend said that he kept trying to ask me out he was just waiting until the perfect time or for courage or something, well he moved away instead of asking me out and I was remembering it today because it was about two months ago and well I just feel so alone...

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  • 1 decade ago
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    yes it is a valid reason, dont worry when the time is right the right guy will find you.


    Nicky boy if you dont like gays so much, why are you even in this section unless you are trying so hard to be straight and your gay tendencies just keep coming out. are you afraid to admit to yourself that you are gay? and there have been a lot of important people in this world who are gay...

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    so not only are your comments not welcome here but they are also not true

    sorry to get off topic i just dont like ignorance

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  • 1 decade ago


    I hate those missed chances, they happen all the time when we don't take the chance.

    Hang in there you are not alone in being lonely there are many young men out there suffering the same fate.

    You will have yours soon enough for now focus on getting your life together while waiting for it to happen.


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  • 1 decade ago

    Take a lesson from your friend as well as myself, and grow some balls. I f you like someone you got step up your game flirt, hit on them, talk, go clubbing, but lets be real sitting hear crying to us isn't going to get you any closer to that passionate relationship that you so clearly desire. I know it's hard there's the fear of rejection and getting you heart broken, but that's just life, whether your gay, bi, strait, or whatever. But just be patient you sound young, you still have time to grow. Good Luck

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  • I don't think you are depressed it is more like you are distressed at not having accomplished what you had your heart set on, don't despair over it, yes you missed out on your first desire but there will be ample opportunities for you to get someone and have the fun that you seek, just keep on keeping on and don't give up the search, good luck in your search.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Be straight. You'll get more respect. And you'll be LESS lonely because there aren't a lot of gay guys....because they're scared to show their shame. I don't blame them. Gayness is embarrassment. That's why I'm striaght. Be straight and life will be A LOT easier. You don't see Gay Presidents, but you DO see gay plumbers and mcdonald's staff. What does this tell you? Straight people are helping the country grow, until gays. They cannot work a normal relationship and is just plain stupid. Sick gays. I hate them. No offence to anyone. =) =(

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  • 1 decade ago

    Sounds like a pretty legit reason to me.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    yeah... it sucks to be lonely... *sends you a hug* :( I know you will find someone... but sometimes its easier to be sure of that for everyone else... I know how impossible it can feel... but trust me you will

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You'll find one, trust me. And its going to be hot!

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