I pay for EVERYTHING in this house........so am I overly optimistic in expecting a little gratitiude and co-op

He says he can't work but has the same "condition" I do...I work 12 hour shifts, do all the housework and shopping etc......he does one meal a day five days a week.
He gets stroppy if I suggest he does a bit more , or if I say I buy the baccy!!!!

Who's right here???
Update: we both have fibromyalgia... and yes I know MALE AND FEMALE FEEL PAIN DIFFERRENT gimme a break here...all I am asking is a tidy house!!
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