Ever been cheated on?
when you thought that person never would do it to you especially by things that they made you believe?
I just got out of a one year relationship because it happened to me. If it has happened to you tell me the story because I feel so horrible that I don't even want to eat. If it has never happened to you then please, don't rub it in my face. Just don't answer the question if so.
- Captain Jack ®Lv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Cheating definately hurts bad, but some people take the littlest thing as cheating. In your case, I agree with you. There is a big difference between having a regular sex partner (or 2 or three) besides you and a chance incounter that happened out of a situation and won't be repeating it's self.
Some people think it's cheating to have friends (not sex friends) of the opposite sex, looing at or looking at erotica.
You can be cheated to the core, and not have had sex been involved until after the fact, Like I was.
Imagine being cheated in every aspect but. My ex cheated me out of my finacial freedom and credit rating. The person I trusted was supposed to be paying the bills with the money I was out working hard for. I was at work when the mail came and didn't question it. It didn't take me long after she "went to take the kids to visit her sick mother", that I came home to the mail still in the box and finding the house payment 120 days behind, what were supposed to have been monthly bills in 4-5 figures and my savings drained. Like I wasn't going to figure this out?
Imagine being cheated out of any social status in a small town, as your ex had you labeled behind your back as a wife beater and child molester. Can you be a mild mannered person, and imagine this happening to you?
Can you imagine someone cheating you out of your children, that they did not want in the first place, having to go deeper in debt to have international kidnapping charges pending, before you got your kids back?
Can you imagine being cheated out of your dignity, as anyone who found out I had sense to go get therapy considers me a looney toon? Can you imagine 10+ years of being cheated out of the freedom to just answer your own phone as you had to let many bills go into collection, before you could satisfy them at a lesser amount while still struggling? Can you imagine having been responsible only to have to take 15 years to see any hope of rising from the ashes of a shattered existance?
All this, and supposedly there was no sex involved till after the fact.
Like I said, I agree with you. Someone who has a regular partner(s) outside of supposedly monogomous relationship is cheating, but I get so sick of seeing people whine about being cheated for things as having (non sexual) friends of the opposite sex, looking at naked pictures/video/webcams and such as cheating. I even feel for those who find their relationship in peril or gone because of a chance incounter fueled by unusual emotional circumstances and/or partying beyond normal common sense. Something that happened once, by mistake should be forgivable in the long term. Humans are sexual beings and don't always do the right thing at strange moments in life.
Cheating goes far beyond sex and non sexual cheating can be the worst kind. It was for me. It wasn't sexual cheating that ruined my life. That would had been a whole lot easier to get through than things beyond my control that I still sometimes find myself paying for emotionally and financially some 15 years on. Having loosing your love because they were seeing someone else hurts, but that hurt soon fades. Other kinds of cheating can haunt you for decades.
I hope it gets better for you :-)
PS to other answerers:
Stop the men bashing. I have known in my personal experience of far more relationships ruined by sexual cheating on the woman's part, than the man's. In my obsevations, women are far more likely to cheat sexually than men, but far likely less to get caught.Source(s): Still paying.
- 1 decade ago
Yes and here's the tale.
My first wife met someone at a party and they were joined at the hip, me unaware. Too busy in my photo darkroom.
So after 10 years she wants a divorce, OK, no real choice because we were also best friends; well it started to be a little strange - I even went to their wedding and still trade cards with her family - even have the kids stay over when they visit from Australia and go to Disney.
It is a sore point with my present wife and soul mate so I keep contact at a minimal, especially with the ex.
I cried some because your immediate thought is of loss and that you're not enough for them in the physical world; actually, I believe there is a compatibility index somewhere you just need to match up again with a match.
Don't know if good sex and everlasting love are the pinnacle of stuff, but it beats the hell out of whatever is in second place.
Don't be hard on yourself, be thankful for what you have and work on happy thoughts. Your next soulmate is only steps away.
So is this person a best friend or soul-mate? If not really, let it go. It took me 4-5 more relationship before the index kicked in.
The other thing to remember, What's above, is what's below and what is within is what is without. IE are you creating your own reality or not......
- 4 years ago
I Live In Texas And The TAKS Test Are Like The Year end Exams And Cheating Is An Automatic Zero Plus You Fail For The WHOLE Year Meaning You Have To Repeat That Grade!!! And Yes I Took The Risk Last Year Cuz My Friend Needed Some Answers And I Gave Some To Him!! Didnt Get Caught Either! I Never Cheated Tho Cuz Im To Good For That...3.8 GPA
- DoveyLv 71 decade ago
Yes, and he broke my heart in half. He got sloppy about hiding it and I started having him followed. He had 2 or 3 on the side going all the time like he was dating or something. Honey, I am so sorry. The dirty rat b*stard. Remember the bad times and throw the good times away because they weren't real. He will wake up someday (unless he already did when you found out) and he will feel worse than you do now and you will be over him by then. Trust me. Bless your heart. Damn Men Who Cheat!! All Of Them!!
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
yes i have my last 2 boyfriends actually. i wasn't in a long term relationship with either so i wasn't feeling quite so bad about it but it does hurt. you need to move on and try and forget about him it will take LOTS of time but eventually you will be gald that you found out when you did. i wish you the best of luck on relationships yet to come and hope this never happens again. Oh yeah you NEED to eat trust me i stoped eating b/c of my last boyfriend and my breakup and i lost almost 10 lbs now i've gone down 2 pant sizes in less than 2 months. PLEASE keep eating.
- nahimana34Lv 41 decade ago
Yes it has happened more than once, walked in on it once (that was the worst feeling, I was so humiliated). I still think about it sometimes and get sick to my stomach. The smartest decision I made was not to do it back it was too degrading. I'm proud of you for ending it, I wish I would've been that smart the first time it happened.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Yes it's the worst feeling in the world. My boyfriend cheated on me with a woman who was like 10 yrs older than me. He said he always had a crush on her when he was growing up and the opportunity presented itself one night when they were both partying. I was devastated especially since I had just moved to his hometown to be with him. I felt like he didn't care for me at all. We tried to work things out and be together still but I could never forgive him for cheating on me and everytime we had an argument I threw it in his face. Of course things didn't work out between us but I don't feel like it was my fault. I'm sorry you were cheated on. I know how bad you feel.Source(s): personal experience
- Anonymous1 decade ago
yes, but don't worry hun, it wasn't you or anything wrong with you, some people are just that way. You're better without them, just don't let their bad judgement get you too low. You deserve everything and this cheater obviously wasn't even close to that. I hope you feel better soon.
- linzLv 41 decade ago
once that I know of. I didnt' really care because I was about to break up with him anyway. So it just made it alot easier on me!
I know you're still upset but just try and realize that they weren't worth it and you can do way better! Keep your chin up. You will be fine soon. :)
- ઈтєllyLv 71 decade ago
Yes, being cheated on sucks. It will get easier with time, but you will never forget it. Move on with your life - the cheating ****** isn't worth the salt in your tears.