Married men who cheat, should a wife be informed?

If a married man has placed a personal ad saying he's single, should his wife be told, or should you just hope that someday she catches on and stay out of it? This is the third wife he's cheated on, so it isn't like he's changed over the last 20 years. If anything, he's gotten better at his "game". Is it right to let her know, or is it best to hope that somehow she finds out on her own?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Best Answer

    Whether or not you tell her depends greatly on who you are.

    Are you her friend? Yes.

    Are you a mutual friend of the 2 of them? Yes.

    Are you a family member? Yes.

    Are you his ex girlfriend who may or may not have tried to cause problems between them in the past? Better just stay out of it..

  • Debra
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    What part of this really surprises you? Here are the facts: Face 1: He was married. Meaning, married. Not divorced. Not even in the process of getting a divorce. Fact 2: He never made future plans to be with you. You were a fling who grew attached - like a parasite. Unfortunately for you, you had hopes that he would eventually be just yours. He never was. Fact 3: You aren't deserved any answers. I'm sorry, but you're not going to get any answers. You were just a nice way to get sex and power without ruining his marriage directly. You're nothing more than a random annoyance at this point. My advice? Move on. Don't get revenge, don't get even .... simply move on and learn never to get involved with a married man.

  • Kyle
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Women will stay and stay and stay, no matter what the man does, and he's had 20 years of experience in lying and getting past this. I'd say let it go. It'll come out at some point. She probably already knows, just doesn't want to face the truth. Men are very obvious, if women would just pay closer attention and get out of the fantasy world.

  • Kc
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Yes, I think that someone should have some pity on her and let her know. After that, what she decides to do, is up to herself.

    Too many get away with murder, because people choose to turn a blind eye.

    There are cases, obviously when it is none of our business, and each situation is different, but when a guy goes to make it public knowledge, then it is everybody's problem!

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  • 1 decade ago

    I definitely think the wife should be told!!! I don't think you should just spring it on her bluntly, of course it should be done in a gentle way, but I really think women need to stick together. Also, don't assume that she's going to want to leave this guy who is cheating on her. Some women don't. Leave that up to her and try not to bad mouth her husband. (Even though in your mind you know he's a total loser, you don't need to tell her that)

  • 1 decade ago

    Well you can tell her but she may not believe you. Have proof before you spill. You would want to know right? So you know she does too. Be there for her and make sure that she is informed of what he is doing. Make sure that you have proof cause she wont believe you that is the man she loves.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, the wife needs to be informed. In this day of STD's she needs to be checked for anything he brought home. Give her a copy of the ad, so she can turn it over to her divorce lawyer.

  • 1 decade ago

    it might be hard to tell her. but she will probably get mad at you whether you tell her or not. if you do, she will be like 'why are you trying to break up my marriage!!' if you don't, she WILL find out, and when she finds out you knew she will say 'why didn't you tell me? were you just laughing at me behind my back? was i the last one in the whole WORLD to know?!?'

    so, just think about whether or not your motives are pure, and if they are, then tell her.

    Or, you could simply cut out the personal add, and send it to her anonymously. but i doubt that would work well. you may find out in the end that they have an 'arrangement' and he might be allowed to do this.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It would be nice to inform the ladyonly if you are a close friend,relative and show with proof .

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Yes, think the wife should know.

    There are some many diseases that can come back home.

    Can't stop bad adult behavior. and not thinking of others.

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