Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Is shyness really a lack of confidence?

Entertainers . . .

Ann Margaret Winner of five Golden Globe Awards and veteran of forty-two films that span more than thirty years, Ann Margaret was also shy as a child. (Hint - scroll down past the advertisements to see the article.)

Bob Dylan Born Robert Allen Zimmerman in Duluth, Minnesota in 1941, this shy youth went on to become one of the greatest folk singers and composers of his time. (Hint - scroll down past the advertisements to see the article.)

Brad Pitt Known for his portrayal of exciting energetic characters on the screen, Brad Pitt is said to be shy and protective in his personal life.

Carrie Underwood She "isn't shy about her shyness." That's what they're saying about Carrie Underwood, the fourth winner of the American Idol television series. Her first album debuted in the number one position on Billboard's chart. Not bad for this shy, but talented, young Oklahoma woman!,_Carrie/B...

Cathy Rigby Cathy Rigby turned to gymnastics as a way to help her overcome severe shyness. Eight gold medals later, she found herself working as a sports commentator for ABC and starring in Peter Pan on Broadway. Not bad for a shy girl!

Cher Bono Shy and introverted earlier in her career, Cher found her style with the help of then husband, Sonny Bono, and blossomed into a star in her own right.

Courteney Cox Arquette Shy as a young girl and frequently picked on, Courteney Cox Arquette felt like an outsider growing up, but that didn't stop her from joining us in living rooms around the country in her role as Monica Geller on Friends.

David Bowie Even rock stars can be shy. Check out David Bowie.

David Letterman Like many of his fellow shy talk show hosts, David Letterman doesn't let his self-proclaimed "painful shyness" get in the way of interviewing his guests or entertaining his audiences.

Diane Schuur Jazz fans will know this name. Blinded as a child when too much oxygen in her incubator damaged her optic nerve, this once shy talent didn't let a little thing like that stop her and has gone on to be one of our great female jazz vocalists.

Don Rickles Don Rickles imitated his father's style of kidding people about themselves and found that, like his father, he could make friends by making people laugh.

Donny Osmond In the public eye from the time he was small, the pressure of performing and being constantly judged eventually caught up with Donny in the form of Social Phobia. With the help of therapy Donny learned to "play with his fear instead of running from it."

Erin Brockovitch Like the Julia Robert's, who played Erin in the film that made Erin's name a household word, Erin struggled with shyness as a child. But that didn't stop Erin from setting a quarter billion dollar law suit dealing with exposure to toxic levels of Chromium 6 into motion.

Ella Fitzgerald Shy offstage, this Jazz legend was surprised to find that onstage she had no fear.

Elvis Presley Music was a form a self-expression for this talented shy young man who lost his footing to fame.

Garrison Keillor This multifaceted multitalented man brought us Lake Wobegon, made "A Prairie Home Companion" a household term and taught us to laugh at the shyness that he and so many of us have shared.

Gene Hackman Gene Hackman's film credits include the likes of Bonny And Clyde, The French Connection, Unforgiven, Mississippi Burning and Enemy of the State in spite of a childhood shyness that has carried forward somewhat into adulthood.

George Harrison Often referred to as the "Quiet Beatle," this shy superstar helped shape the face of modern music.

Gloria Estefan It helps to have a mentor. Husband and group leader, Emilio Estefan, is said to have helped a relatively shy Gloria come out of her shell to become the dynamic entertainer she is today.

Harrison Ford Sexy and shy in one package? Sure, check out Oscar nominee Harrison Ford, who didn't let shyness get in the way of his pursuit of a successful acting career.

Henry Fonda It's hard to believe this talented actor from Nebraska was painfully shy.

Ingrid Bergman This talented actress and only child was afraid of her classmates in school. Sound familiar? But what a talent

Jim Carrey Yes, Jim Carrey---he too was a shy quiet child who and didn't have many friends until he showed his comedic talents.

Joan Rivers Probably best know for her work as a guest host pinch-hitting for fellow shy person Johnny Carson on the Tonight Show, Joan was said to have used jokes to cover up her shyness when she was younger.

Johnny Carson Many a television watcher shared the dawn of a new day with this fellow shy late night talk show host who seemed anything but shy on the screen.

Julia Roberts Born in Smyrna, Georgia, this once shy young woman has become one of the most popular actresses in America.

Kevin Costner Awarding winning actor in his adult life, Kevin's mother encouraged him to join the choir as a way to help him overcome shyness caused by frequent moves as a child.

Louise Siversen Some of you baby-boomers may remember Louise from the television show The Prisoners or, perhaps, you saw her in one of her films. In any case, Louise is one of the many people who didn't let her shyness keep her from a career in show business.

Lucille Ball Perceived as shy by teachers at the John Murray Anderson dramatic school and discouraged from pursuing a career in show business, Lucille Ball did not give up. The rest is history.

Mary Chapin Carpenter I was surprised to learn that his dynamo on stage is one of us shy people. But as Mary says, "when you're in that place where you're really into what you're doing-whether onstage, or by yourself at your desk, or wherever-there is a great sense of fulfillment. It's one of the few times that you know who you are."

Mia Hamm Said to be the greatest all round women's soccer player, Mia, who holds the record for women's soccer goals, comes from a family of shy Hamms. But that didn't stop her from having a building dedicated in her name.

Michael Feldman Who would have thought! Michael Feldman---shy? If you've ever heard his quick witted radio program, Whad'Ya Know? on NPR, you're probably as surprised as I was.

Michelle Pfeiffer While she describes herself as shy, that didn't stop her from starring in starring in numerous successful movies.

Nancy Marchand Sent to acting school at age 10 to help her overcome her shyness, this Golden Globe winner and two time Emmy Award Nominee's career has spanned everything from soap operas and Mary Tyler Moore to the role of Livia Soprano on the HBO series The Sopranos (1999-2000).

Neil Armstrong His shyness and tendency toward deliberation was mistaken for arrogance by some of his fellow fliers, but he is best known for being the first man to set foot on the moon.

Nicole Kidman Like so many of us, Nicole Kidman describes herself as confident in some situations and shy in others.

Paul Potts I expect we'll be hearing a lot more from this fellow shy person, now that Paul has won the 2007 "Britain's Best Talent" competition for his moving operatic renditions judged by no less than Simon Cowell. Paul follows in the footsteps of another fellow shy singer judged by Cowell, Carrie Underwood, who has gone on to become an award winning singer in her own right following her win on American Idol.

Rene Russo Discovered at a Rolling Stones concert at age 16, this shy young woman went on to become a cover girl for Vogue and Harper's Bazaar and to act in movies with the likes of Clint Eastwood, John Travolta, Dustin Hoffman, Mel Gibson and Kevin Kostner.

Rene Russo Discovered at a Rolling Stones concert at age 16, this shy young woman went on to become a cover girl for Vogue and Harper's Bazaar and to act in movies with the likes of Clint Eastwood, John Travolta, Dustin Hoffman, Mel Gibson and Kevin Kostner.

Richard Gere Shy men take heart, Richard Gere is one of you, but that hasn't stopped him from establishing a successful acting career.

Robert De Niro At the age of ten, Robert De Niro assumed his first stage role as the "cowardly" lion in The Wizard of Oz in an effort to help him overcome shyness. He now has dozens of movies to his credit.

Roy Rogers Roy Rogers and his horse trigger would never have warmed the heart of millions, if he'd given in to his shyness.

Sally Field A woman with an illustrious television and film career, Sally Field is said to describe herself as having a crippling shyness into her early adulthood.

Segourny Weaver Being extremely shy as a child didn't stop Segourny Weaver from pursuing a successful acting career.

Sir Alec Guinness The son of a baker, Sir Alec achieved his dream of being an actor whose talents ranged from Shakespeare to comedy and who was well known for his role as Obi-Wan Kenobi in Star Wars.,...

Tom Cruise Heart throb of many, this illustrious actor struggled with both shyness and dyslexia as a child.

Tom Hanks One of the greatest actors of our time, Tom's family moved frequently when he was child---making it harder for him to make friends. His involvement in theatre helped to ease his resulting shyness.


I'm a shy person.

I know I'm gifted with a lot, but am shy with women. Does this mean that I have a lack of confidence?

A lot of cool people are shy.

I'm shy, paranoid, whatever word you want to use. I hate fame. I've done everything I can to avoid it.

Johnny Depp

Update 2:

Link to website of shy people.

6 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Dude, you could stand to type shorter questions...

    But seriously no, shyness is not an indicator of a lack of confidence...

    Shyness is a result of people not feeling comfortable in a certain environment or situation.

    When all is said and done comfort is what it comes down to.

    Put anyone in a situation when they feel in control and shyness goes out the window.

  • 6 years ago

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    Is shyness really a lack of confidence?

    Entertainers . . .

    Ann Margaret Winner of five Golden Globe Awards and veteran of forty-two films that span more than thirty years, Ann Margaret was also shy as a child. (Hint - scroll down past the advertisements to see the article.)...

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  • 6 years ago

    Low self esteem is normal, loads of people have it. However, it's not something to be proud of, nor is it something you have to live with - or you'll just get walked all over, maybe without even realizing it. Be willing to improve your situation, even if you think it's just a case of intense shyness. Low self esteem is very different and it is somewhere on the "lack of confidence" spectrum, but not shy. Sometimes it's better to convert slightly shy than to stay with no self esteem. People with low self esteem lack basic social skills because they don't have the esteem to put themselves forward. Simple

  • 5 years ago

    If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here

    Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

    Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed

    Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life

    Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

    If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

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  • 1 decade ago

    i honestly don't know ,i wish that i could understand why it is so hard to communicate with another person . rejection coldness and indifference is what stands between me and a potential friend

  • 1 decade ago

    nope. i have all the confidence in the world i just don't like attention.

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